I really have no interest in getting married again is there something wrong with me am I bad for just wanting to have fun living the single life?
2007-12-21 17:39:38 · 16 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not necessary to get married again unless you've met Mr. Right and you both are in love with one another...other then that it is not at all needed.
Enjoy your single life just be sure that you don't ignore your children. Spend plenty of quality time with them and make sure your kids know it wasn't their fault that you and their daddy split up.
Please be sure that if and when you do move on with your life and want to be with Mr. Right that Mr. Right loves your children and treats them good, also make sure your children are OK with Mr. Right. but only bring around Mr. Right when you are sure he is the right man, don't bring every Tom Dick or Harry around your kids that would be bad for so many reasons.
Hope it all works out for you and your kids :)
2007-12-21 17:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
If you dont want to get married thats fine, but to think that u can be as carefree as u once were before marriage and children is wrong because your never going to get those years back. I hear u say "fun living the single life" and all i see is a mom constantly hanging out at the club , dating a bunch of different men, being out night after night or weekend after weekend and her children paying the consequence of her feeling the need to recapture her youth and they shouldnt have to pay for you not being mature enough to handle the situation u chose to get urself into. Its one thing to be happy being single , its fine going out on occassion , but your not technically single your a mom, and you need to make sure that your kids dont lose their mom during the process of you feeling the need to live the "single" life.. so i hope that you do so in a mature way that doesnt affect your children. Because they need you more then u need to have "fun" and if you cant handle that, then perhaps they'd be better off with ur x so u can recapture your youth and the partying days.
2007-12-21 18:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you feel that you should get married again, or do you want the single life? Your question mentions both. Anyway. I know exactly how you feel...well not exactly. I am getting out of a marriage, and I want the single life. I feel like he was hindering me from reaching my full potential. I think you should just do you. Better yourself, spend time with yourself. Give it some time. Don't rush into marriage.
2007-12-21 19:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should ask yourself what "getting married again" will accomplish. If it brings more security to your life.....or if it means you will be happier.....or if it means your kids will have a mom and a dad.... Just know that what ever you decide your kids will be learning from you by your actions, what is OK and what is not. To do it because society says you should is just silly. If you look around enough you can always find a group of people to agree with any decision you make.
2007-12-21 18:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with you not wanting to get married again. You have every right to enjoy your life. You should not marry for the kids, they have a father. Do what is best for you and what will make you happy. Your kids would prefer a happy mother than one that is married and miserable.
2007-12-21 19:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know of no law saying you have to get married again because you have children. Are you referencing that it's a societal pressure to get married again because you have children? I quit caring what everyone else thought I should do a long time ago, so that I could focus on what I felt was right for me. The sooner you do the same, the better off you'll be. Good luck to you.
2007-12-21 17:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by NunyaBizzness 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is up to you whether you get married again or not. While you are living the single life, protect your kids from it. Don't bring in different guys for them to get connected with or even know. Shield them from who you may be dating. Kids can get attached easily or may not understand the concept of "dating". Make sure your kids know that they come first.
Good luck & have fun!
2007-12-21 19:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your kids will be happier knowing you are happy. You don't have to get married again just so they will have a dad. They already have one. Do what makes you happy and as long as you are not out partying all night or bring strange men home every night, the kids will be fine. And so will you!
2007-12-21 17:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should not get married again, especially if your husband was not unfaithful.
There IS something wrong with you though, for wanting to have the "fun single life."
Most people, however, won't have clue as to what I'm talking about. That's fine. They should just cook up some hot dogs and turn on football.
2007-12-21 17:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
You don't have to get married if you don't want to. Do what makes you happy.
2007-12-21 17:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋