17 year old who really wants a kid?

Question

is it odd that i am 17 and i really just want to settle down and have a family? I have tons of potential and college in front of me, but im sick of the teen scene and i just want a kid and a man to be happy with

if it makes any difference to all of you people who ask me whether I really know the responsibility of a child then yeah i do because I have 6 little siblings and I have been raising the three youngest ones since they were born. I have tons of little cousins too that I have had plenty of experience in caring for.

Answer 1

wierd dude!!! Chill out and get your self a hobby. Don't become a hubby so soon!!!

Answer 2

You won't be a teen much longer. Go to college and enjoy life a little. If you are sick of the teen scene, will you be sick of the family scene in a few years? Marriage should not be entered into just to escape something else. I know there are some people that get married young and live a very happy life,but there are a lot that don't. A child takes a lot of time and love. make sure you have enough of both before you decide to settle down.

Answer 3

It's very unrealistic. There is a LOT of distance between "the teen scene" and settling down with a kid and a man to be happy with. Those things you are pining for are actually HUGE responsibilities. Just how much babysitting have you done for infants, toddlers, and school-aged children have you done? Do you think that you can be the best wife and mother without a college education? Do you never want to have a job or career? Don't you have any interests or hobbies that you want to pursue? If you are "sick of the teen scene" try doing some grown-up stuff. Study more. Volunteer more. Work for your community. Get involved in political activities. You are really much too young to be a wife or mother, so get some mature experiences first.

Answer 4

I'd say you would be making a big mistake.

You don't have to escape the "teen scene" by settling down and having a kid.

Try volunteering somewhere.. Not only would you be stepping up and doing something good, but chances are you would meet amazing and mature people.


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Based on your newly added information --- and what I kind of expected -- you have some issues going on that you need to work out. Seriously, dude; take a really good look at yourself and your life. Raising your siblings, you say? Why? Your parents don't? Are they bad parents? Are they okay parents that just work too hard? Are your parents even around? What's the deal? It sounds to me like you've been given too many respeonsiblities for your age and now you want to do what you know best. That's normal, I guess; but that doesn't make it the right thing to do.

Think things through. Bringing a child into the world prematurley is a very bad idea. You need to have everyting together if you want him/her to get the best out of life. Do you even have a plan?

Answer 5

Find A Younger Girl Like 8th Grade Or Freshman Then Take Her Out To A Nice Place. She'll Be So Caught Up In The Moment She'll Do ANYTHING. **** Her Get Her Pregnant If She Doesn't Get Pregnant Move On To The Next Girl. 9 Months Later Offer To Take The Kid and Never Talk To Her Again

Answer 6

When you were 6 you wanted to be 12 so you could have boobs. When you were 12 you wanted to be 16 and have your drivers license. Now that you are 17 you want to be a parent.

Be patient, no need to grow up so fast, enjoy this time while you can. What an unborn child needs least is to be raised by a child, no matter how good your intentions. Prepare yourself to be a responsible parent through education and a career before you limit yourself and your future children by becoming pregnant while still a child yourself (<18, over 18 is defined by law as an adult in most places).

Be patient, be responsible, be prepared!

Answer 7

Ya know, I was a young mom.I was pregnant when I was 18. And while I dont regret it in the slightest, I made my life so much more complicated by doing things in the wrong order. I was just like you, really smart and motivated. Im not saying that having a family young is bad, just set yourself up so you can provide a great life for them. Ya know , go to college , meet a great guy while you there, and then settle down after your done. I had to do things in the opposite order, Have a baby, get married , the go to school ( while working and having a baby). It was really hard. Wanting to settle down is just a way of reassuring you that you are past that annoying " teenage drama queen" age , that most girls go through. Thats a great thing! But settiling down to start a family before you have the ability to provide for them isint the best idea. Listen, I cant tell you what to do with your life but my husband and I STRUGGLED , to provide for our family, I just wouldnt want to see you do that if you didnt have to. Wait a few years, get your life organized, and then have a fam, that way you will be able to enjoy it and not constantly stress like we did. Best of luck!

Answer 8

Personally I don't know whether its a good idea just because lots of people look down on teen pregnancy which is hard to handle plus it makes it hard to go to uni or get a job when your dragging round a lil kid...it's better to see how life takes you, settle into a career of some sort and find the right person before thinking of kids....otherwise the kid's life is gonna be hard.


And I know it sucks to constantly be told you're too young but you only live once and so it's great to live young as long as you can :D

Answer 9

I don't think you are all messed up for thinking that! That actually is pretty normal. However, please let me say to you from experience. Your "younger" years are gonna go by in a flash! Alot of people DO mature faster than others. And that is fine. I would really suggest using that mature "nature" you seem to be talking about and take your time! Good for you to be sick of the teen scene! Your not there for them! Remember your their to accomplish YOUR goal!
I was just like you, I was Homecoming Queen, Cheerleader. I was really sick of trying to fit into a "box" I just did not fit into completly. I moved away, "walking away from a scholorship" and found me someone "really fast" that I thought would make a good husband and father.
Well, I ended up pregnate with "Triplets" (natural) I did not do that on purpose! And he was a complete POS, and to this very day I have that scum bucket in court!
And NO MAN is gonna make you happy, I learned that a long time ago. YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY WITH YOU! Too H*** with all those teenage drama queen scenes! You look out for you. LOL, ever seen Romey & Michelle's High School Reunion? If not you should!
Good Luck Sweets
BTW my Triplets are 10 now 2 identical boys and one girl.
(your welcome to babysite) LOL
Steph

Answer 10

If you plan to go to college, don't have a child now. Otherwise you are looking at trying to juggle daycare with homework. If you are sick of the "teen scene" find friends that are more mature (not neccesarily older, just more mature). Everyone thinks that high school is the end all be all but it isn't. Finish college and get out on your own so you know that you can be independent without having to rely on someone else to take care of you before you think about having a child.

Answer 11

Wait! Enjoy your teenage years and wait until you have settled down for a child. A child is not a doll that you can play with and throw in a corner when you get tired. It is a 24/7 job!
Volunteer to sit with a friends children for a weekend where you are fully responsible and see how it goes. It is not easy! Especially when you have no one to help and the baby is crying or sick and you don't know what to do. As I say again, WAIT!