2007-12-21 16:16:24 · 17 answers · asked by My world goes round 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it would be worse to cheat on a person u loved because u would always remember what u did to that person, providing u had a conscience. the hurt would follow u for many years. it also hurts to be the one cheated on by the one u love, it tears your heart in two, ruins your self worth, and ruins your faith in mankind for many years. but if i had my choice i would not want o be the one who cheated because of the karma that comes to u as a result of hurting someone. it always finds u no matter what.
2007-12-21 16:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By FAR, it is worse to be cheated upon.
Because so many more variables have been violated upon.
Not to mention the magnitude of the violations.
Simply put... if i did the cheating.
I would feel remorse... and would feel it.... for ever how long my conscious can remember.... over time... CHEATING can be forgotten.
If my g/f cheated on me. (which has happened)
All the things i did for her prior to the 'deed', is now understood as a waste of time.
All the effort of wooing her, trying to make her laugh, have fun.
all the resources of companionship etc etc were: a waste...
or Non effective.
The magnitude of your interests is out-weighed,
by the "cheater's" interests.
The question is... who tried in the relationship?
Who was putting the positive effort into making things work.
And well... who wasn't? The cheater may say "I tried".
But... from a Mediator's point of view... the cheater did not try hard enough... (had something or someone on the side to fall back on?) and soon realized with this 'false' comfort, found that it was easier to find someONE else... rather than to fix or to break up the relationship.
In short. If you cheated. The PAIN is remorse.
If you were the one whom was cheated upon....
the PAIN is the HEART and history to building that HEART, for that someone.
I don't think there is a comparison between the two.
just my thoughts
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2007-12-22 02:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by movngfwd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I find that the both f them is worse because you shouldnever cheat on someone you love and neither shouldthey or you really don't love each other if you do.
2007-12-22 04:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by baby girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are equally bad. The hurt that it causes can be intense for some people. I always view someone negatively if I find out they've been unfaithful.
That kind of betrayal is one of the worst forms of disrespect. If someone feels that they need to cheat in a relationship, they ought to end it in the first place.
2007-12-21 16:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by doktrgroove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will choose the second though both sucks.
1) If you love someone, you would not cheat. Even if it happens, selfishness rules. It breaks another heart, not your own.
2) losing a love you cannot control feels worse.
2007-12-21 16:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by TT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To cheat on someone I loved because I know how it feels to be cheated on and I wouldn't ever wish that on anyone; especially someone I love.
2007-12-21 18:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW... that is a deep question. I don't think that if you have ever been cheated on you would ask that question though. Being cheated on I think hits so many other emotions then just disappointment and feeling bad that you did something wrong or in most cases 'got caught'. I think that if someone was to want to cheat... they obviously have never been on the deception's end.
2007-12-21 16:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Karen 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
To be the cheater. You cannot control anyone's actions but your own. To be the cheater would show I had no respect for my partner and that I chose to betray and hurt someone else for some hedonistic pleasure and I would hate myself for that!
Though having someone that I loved cheat on me wouldn't be trailing far behind.
2007-12-21 16:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by Onyx ♠ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would suck either way...But if I had to choose, I would rather get cheated on, because I couldnt live with myself, the guilt would kill me to cheat on the one I cherish most in my life. Its not even an option. Its just something I would NEVER do..
2007-12-21 16:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Honeychild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, it would be to be the cheat. Why? Because while I might be able to accept the weakness in others, I couldn't stand for that weakness to be in me. I do not cheat.
2007-12-21 16:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋