is it really TRUE when you stop looking, love is supposed to find you?

Question

Proven, tested and true... I want to hear from your versions how you met the love of your life when you weren't looking for love? LOL. I want to hear testimonials. :)

Answer 1

I had only been divorced for about 3 years when I met my husband. After a 20 year marriage, the last thing I was looking for was a serious relationship. I started a new job and met a man who was also just getting out of a crummy relationship. We became friends, had a lot in common and liked and respected each other. We hung out a lot and then we both realized we couldn't live without each other. Here we are, 15 years later, and I really appreciate finding such a good guy.

Answer 2

Well... I was dating a guy only to find out he'd been dating 4 other women as well (in different cities). Anywho, called him up and told him to get bent. Needless to say, I was done with men... I was always the kind of girl that going out and meeting a new guy and making out was fun (first kisses are often the best!) But the thought of kissing a guy or even holding ones hand was revolting to me... Then randomly a friend messaged me on facebook and asked me if I was single... and next thing you know I was on a blind date with the most amazing man I'd ever met (I'd never been set up before so I decided that I'd at least try it for my friends sake). The day I met him I knew there was not anyone else in the world I'd rather be with. It's a bit over a year later and what an amazing year it's been... NOW if I'm really lucky... He'll ask me to spend all my years with him :)

Answer 3

It's a fairy tale , "once upon a time" and they "lived happily ever after". As corporate manager you work 12+ hours a day,six days a week . This provides security (money) but not enough time off. Now if I took a lesser job it would not supply adequate income. Sort of a Catch 22 .Too many women think life is like the movies, that's not REAL LIFE ! After 56 years now some find peace living alone, and could not have someone else around 24/7. You can't have it both way's.

Answer 4

You have a chance of a better outcome
if you stop looking.
Then begin to look at other people as entities in their own right and
not just as future appendages for you; that would scare any normal being off.

Apart from being over engrossed with the chase
you also need to work on yourself
so that you become worth catching.
Learning to put others first is a good starting point.

Did I say, you also need to know what part you played in any previous unsuccessful relationships?

Been there , done that. That's how I know what worked for me.
Merry Christmas all!

Answer 5

I believe that is true. The last time I found love in my life, I had basically given up on meeting someone. So, I had taken a second part-time job to help pass time and earn extra money.Well, shortly after taking the job, my last love entered the picture. It took a couple months of him hanging out where I worked to finally asked me out, but it was worth it.But, you can't meet the love of your life if you spend all your free time on the computer!! (Unless you start internet dating) By the way, I am single again and can't seem to get away from Yahoo Questions. LOL

Answer 6

Love, like all things, happens when it is supposed to. You cannot force it. Sitting at home and complaining doesn't get it either.
I met the love of my life in the 3rd grade. We certainly were not looking for love.
life came between us. Fifty years later at a class reunion we met again. Its true the years fell away and we trusted and communicated as if we had never been apart. We have to be thankful for what we have and not what we missed.

Answer 7

I hope not because I really just want to do my own thing and I don't want any partner holding me down at this time in my life - frankly I think having a partner is a gigantic bore. I can see myself enjoying my senior years(I am only 56 at the present)without having to answer to anyone. I want to have my own place just the way I want it, travel alone or with my sister, and not to have some bloke criticising my looks all the time.

Answer 8

That's how it worked for me, each time. First was a pairing off
of cadets at a military ball. And the one I was paired with,
became the first love of my life for two or more years. Then
the second one entered my life, after I was introduced and
he gave me a ride home from school. And I went with him
for about two years. And the very last one, walked into my
life, when I had the flu but was out to give my friend company
while walking to meet her date. And I was planning to walk
back and go back to bed. And this 'boy next door' type,
walked into the snack bar where we were waiting for the
date of my girlfriend, and sat down, and offered each of us
an L&M cigarette, with the same line as in the popular TV
commercial for them. We later spent the afternoon and early
evening together in the adjacent club, and we were engaged
the following week. And two weeks later, we were married
before leaving for Christmas vacation and our honeymoon.
Then after two more weeks, he left for Okinawa, and I re-
turned to the army base we'd left earlier, where I continued
some advanced schooling.
We just had our 45th wedding anniversary on the 19th. So
love definately found me, each time when I wasn't looking.
Especially, sick with the flu. Meeting someone, was the last
thing I had on my mind. LOL.

Answer 9

In my case, there was a guy who saw me at a very boring place & asked me if I wanted to leave & see a live band. I knew him from the neighborhood, but never took him seriously because he puts on the dumb dufus act. We started talking & I found out that he had a brain.We've been together over 4 years now.

Answer 10

JUST DIVORCED 82 AND WAS OUT FOR THE NIGHT WHEN A LADY WALKED UP AND ASKED IF I WAS WITH ANYONE. I SAID NO AND SHE SAID A SHY FRIEND WAS LOOKING AT ME AND SHE WAS JUST DIVORCED. WE DATED FROM WASHINGTON STATE TO ALABAMA FOR 3 YEARS TO MAKE SURE WE BOTH WERE NOT A REBOUND AND IN 85 GOT MARRIED.SECOND TIME AROUND IS BETTER ALSO.