We've been together for almost 2 years. I have the feeling some times that he will propose soon. He will travel this Christmas to my country to meet my mom.
I adore this man and he has been faithful and devoted to me. Often I think he is the love of my life. However he has the annoying habit to look at pretty girls, especially when he is with his male buddies. Last August I broke up with him because he was frecuently looking at porn, so I thought he was an addict, but he assured me he did not really need to look at porn and promissed to give it up completely (his idea, I didn't ask) and so far I think he has kept his word.
Sometimes he turns his head to see a pretty woman and that makes me feel insecure.
Perhaps I am being paranoid? I know I have some trusting issues.
I told him recently that I feel disrespected and unconfortable when he checks out other women and he said that it is a reflex, and that he does not mean to hurt me, but because it bothers me he will change.
2007-12-21 15:00:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey this is just natural for men. They don't do it to hurt anyones feelings, or to do anything but look. My husband looks at other women, but that is all that happens and everynight he comes home to me.
2007-12-21 15:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is natural for him to look. Don't you? I look at people all the time, men and women. Maybe you could tell him just to not be so obvious about it. I can understand how that would bother you, especially if you were there. Looking at porn is not a bad thing either. Try watching it with him. When someone is addicted to porn it takes over their lives. They only live to watch it. They do that instead of sex. Men don't need to look at porn, they like to. Ask him why he wants to watch it and why he likes to watch it. Listen to his answers with an open mind. You might be surprised by what he tells you. Having an open line of communication is needed for marriage. I can tell my husband anything and ask him anything without having to worry.
2007-12-21 16:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would possibly rather be the case however I have heard that too frequently while the person is honestly no longer curious about females however does no longer desire any person to grasp he's homosexual! Personally I have had exceptional relationships that could no longer paintings considering we didn't think "correct" while we have now intercourse. I in my opinion knew the primary time I slept with my husband I didn't ought to seem any additional, he used to be my excellent have compatibility. I waited till I used to be virtually 20 earlier than even deliberating having intercourse considering of what I used to be taught developing up however that's an principal component and if you're no longer completely happy in that division the wedding is doomed, do you desire to have a divorce to gain knowledge of that?
2016-09-05 10:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by hemmings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was totally like that myself in the beginning. Now i don't care for the looking as long as he does it so i can't even know he took a glance. I mean it's not hurting anything if you really think about. I'm sure you think other guys are attractive and you look it's basically the same except girls have a chest that are very visible and women i think just pay attention to a good looking face. So you think it's different but its really not.
2007-12-21 15:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Felicia *Proud Mommy Of 2* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is VERY NORMAL to look at a pretty girl!!!! That's like saying your not allowed to look at ART!!! Pretty women are a work of ART, you need more self confidence, and you need to TRUST him or you have NOTHING! If I saw a handsome man with GORGEOUS EYES~~~~ I would LOOK, not like obsessively in front of hubby but I would look. That doesn't mean I WANT HIM! It just means he is very attractive like a piece of ART. You need to get a better self esteem or find a new man, this is so normal! Sooooooooooooooo NORMAL! He will meet a million gorgeous women and see a million more, and as for the porn, I am sure he could careless about it anymore. It's not hard to stop looking at it.
The porn thing I think he should stop, the looking is harmless.
2007-12-21 15:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by darlin 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is not natural to keep looking after you have found something. When you lose a shoe, and you search and search for it, and you eventually find it, do you still keep looking for the shoe? He has been looking all his life for that perfect thing. If he had found the perfect thing, he would not still be looking around. He believes there is something better out there for him, and you should wake up, smell the coffee and stop wasting time with him. You are giving up precious love and time to someone who is not going to reciprocate your feelings. Sad thing is when you finally do leave, if you don't leave now, then you will meet someone and have nothing left to give them. Move on.
When a guy finds that perfect person, he proposes and makes an honest woman out of that person. He doesn't keep searching.
2007-12-21 15:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Men are men. They aren't dead. I am married and I still look as does my husband. You can window shop as long as you don't test out the merchandise. It's natural but you have to trust the other half to be able to do that.
2007-12-21 16:39:00 · answer #7 · answered by KARI Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every guy does it. It's in there blood I think. I don't get mad about it cause it's kind of funny. I will point out a good looking woman for my husband cause I know it means nothing....he is coming home to me and with me. Good Luck!
2007-12-21 15:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by queenbee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys always look...it's is like a natural reaction. There is nothing wrong with porn either. I'd rather have my man looking at porn at home...doing what he has to do...than going out and finding someone else.
I think I felt this way when I was 21...
Maybe start pointing out other girls to him. Then he won't think it's such a "taboo" thing to look at other girls and in turn...won't get "in trouble" with you.
Loosen up...he's looking...not f-ing them...
2007-12-21 15:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by qtpie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
All men like to look at pretty women. Women window shop but it doesn'r mean they are going into the store to buy
2007-12-21 15:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by Doc Phil 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋