It was just tonight I realised how negative I had become. I compare myself to other girls all the time, if someone is less pretty than me it makes me feel better but if i see someone prettier, and esp someone who has gotten attention from my bf for some reason or another, i feel ugly, insecure and put the pretty girl on a pedestal, thinking she amazing, beautiful, perfect, and i romanticise the image of her in my head.
i wasnt always like this, wasnt until a i fell in love fir the first time and my bfs 1st gf broke his heart, i thought she was the most beautiful girl ever, and the one i think he cheated on me with, is perfect and i wish i were more like her.
do most girls think like this, is it normal?
my new years resolution is to stop comparing myself, stop being so negative and try to let myself be happy!
2007-12-21 14:57:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
im 20 btw, from someones comment it seemed they thot i was really young! no no i go through stages, except this particular one has lasted over 2 yrs!!
2007-12-21 15:06:27 · update #1
Wow! I started reading this question and couldn't believe it. This sounds exactly like me. I always do this. I separate people that I see while I'm out places into "prettier than me" and "uglier than me". It's automatic and I hate doing it, but I have such low self esteem that I can't help it. I never used to be this shallow.
2007-12-21 18:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOOO NORMAL GIRLL!! I feel like that all the time, especailly when I am on my period because I get bloated and my skin gets oily. Sometimes I give my self a small make-over, get all dressed up for no reason. Just make my self feel pretty... its important to be confortable with how you look. Its part of being a young girl. Its just the way we think, but there is always going to be someone better or prettier than you. I know thats not what you want to hear but its true. You have to think about the other qualities you have that are great, (like if you get a good grade) and compare your self to the stupid models (its fun lol.)
Great resolution!
2007-12-21 23:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl! i was just like u, comparing myself to other girls and if i thot they where prettier i would start crying, i dont think any1 in this world is ugly everyone is gods own special creation, you must realise that your pretty no matter what when you wake up in the morning look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself your beautiful it will start makin you feel better, and once you feel better you'll realise your special features that you havent realised b4, your confidance will build up, don't listen to what other people say cause what they say is not true they just trying to bring you down cause it make them feel beta if you show them that you don;t care what they saying they'll realise that they just wasting thier time
2007-12-22 02:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has those moments when they feel insecure, but don't be upset all the time. ur pretty on the inside and out, is what u have to say in your mind everyday. focus on the way people are on the inside, you'll see that its not always about looks.
and im glad u made such a great new years resolution :)
2007-12-21 23:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not the only one hun. All girls do that. your are beautiful inside and out. Just keep reminding ur self that. If u have bf, then he must like u because u are pretty. I know it's hard, but you have just got to stop thinking that are prettier than u, but rather pretty AS you.
2007-12-21 23:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by lover~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most girls think like this, however I think that you shouldnt feel like that cos it makes you seem like your jealous. You should be happy with who you are, and if you see another girl who you think is hotter than you, then you should just feel happy, and want to make more of an effort with yourself. You see, I dont get jealous or envy anyone, you have to be happy with who you are.
<3 x
2007-12-22 07:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I choose not to think that way, but don't worry, A LOT of girls are like this. It is completely normal. It takes a lot of confidence and integrity to not think this way, I guess something you just learn through time.
2007-12-21 23:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i have, it doesnt make you a bad or mean Person,
its just like when you think you got it bad or being poor, then you see or realize theres
others that are worse off. as long as you dont look down on them, or laugh about it
that kind of person is mean & stupid.
2007-12-21 23:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by Ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't compare yourself to other people because you'll just get yourself down when yousee someone who ypou think might be prettier than you try to think about all your good points it miy make you feel that your special and stop you thinking about negative things
2007-12-22 08:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Alison-x0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am a bloke, my new years resolution is very similar to yours, that is stop comparing myself, be more positive and try to be more understanding towards people i come int contact with. happy Christmas
2007-12-21 23:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by mr perfect 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋