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Question

i got raped a few weeks ago by a 23yr old.

so does tht really mean i lost my virginity at 13?
and then tht would only mean im a sl ut,whore,and am fowolling in the footstes of brit spears?

i WAS NOT going out w/ the 23 yr old

Answer 1

You aren't any of those things. You're a young girl who deserves her innocence back. Stay strong.

Answer 2

You were raped a few weeks ago by a 23-year old? I hope you reported it to the police and your parents. This guy should be serving a jail term for contributing to the delinquency of a minor, sexual assault of a child, or both! To answer your question, yes, you have lost your virginity. Any time you have your first sexual encounter, you are no longer a virgin, unfortunately. It's sad that it happened that way. However, this does not make you a slut, a whore, or another Brittney. It makes you a victim of rape. You are still an innocent child, but you had no business going with a 23-year-old. While I do sympthize with you, and am not trying to judge you, I sincerely hope you learned something from this experience. Stick with friends your own age. Play with Barbie dolls as opposed to possibly becoming pregnant or having a STD. And if you haven't done so, I'd urge you to tell your parents, which you should have done right away. Even the authorities will wonder why you didn't contact them immediately. This guy needs to be locked up so he doesn't do the same thing to another innocent young girl. Meanwhile, don't let this experience ruin your life, but I hope it will teach you not to take foolish chances. Good luck, and God bless.

Answer 3

I feel that you're getting this idea from the media.

In any case, no, you're not what you're thinking you are. You were just a victim of someone's sick desire at the time and yes, you did lose your virginity. But you must look at the more important things now other than the thought of being called a slut or whore.

Right now, pick up a pencil and paper and write down the description of the man who raped you. Write down every detail you can remember about him (to his facial features, to whatever body marks he had, like a tattoo, and even a name if he told you one). Write down the date you were raped, the time (if available) and the place. This is so that you don't forget in the future. Make a copy for yourself in case you lose it and then call the police. This is a must. You must call the police because the man who raped you could be victimizing someone else at this very moment. Once that is done, you must take another step forward.

You must tell your parents or guardians. It'll be hard, but you must confess to them that someone had violated you. You have to tell them and you have to request that they take you to a doctor to make sure that you aren't pregnant and that you don't have any STDs from the man.

(Uh.. in order... write down the details... tell your parents... and then call the police, then go to the doctor! That's better)

I know this will be hard for you, but you must confess to your parents about this. If you put this off any longer, you don't know what'll happen. You don't know if you're pregnant, and you don't know if you have an STD that could affect your life. You must take action now.

I hope for the best for you, and that the situation will come out alright in the end! Best wishes and good luck!

Answer 4

I'm so sorry this happened to you. And yes, you ARE still a virgin. You can only give your virginity to someone. Someone can't take it from you by forcing you. You will lose your virginity when you make a choice to share your love with someone else who you care about. And it certainly doesn't make you any of those bad names! Many rape victims feel shame, or a sense of responsibility for what happend to them. As if this other person's evil act reflects upon the girl in any way. It doesn't! You are as pure and innocent at this moment as you were before you had this terrible trauma. You did nothing wrong, and this is no reflection on your morality. Have you spoken to someone on a rape hotline about this? They can provide you with some support and assistance. Bless you.

Answer 5

Being raped isn't your fault. Have you told someone? Your parents, the police? Don't let this go, you need to put the creep behind bars.

Yes, I guess you've technically lost your virginity, but that doesn't make you any less of a girl/woman. It doesn't make you a slut or a whore either. And certainly not Britney Spears. You'd have to put pictures of your who-ha on the internet for that ;-)

Answer 6

WHOA. you should NOT be worrying about being like britney or some ho! you should be worrying about the legal matter here!! are you aware that any 23 year old having that sort of contanct with someone under 18 is considered underage sex and illegal and he could be arrested if u turn him in. plus, since it was not agreed by both parties it is considered rape which totally against the law and could get his butt up to the rest of his lame-*** life in jail!!!! report him, now. if u hadn't taken a shower after it it would be much easier for him to get arrested. too bad you were worried about what people would think of you. use your brain.

Answer 7

i'm hoping this isn't a joke, cause that is a pretty serious situation. yes, unfortuneatly, you have lost your virginity. but rape in no way makes you a whore/slut/etc. brit spears chooses to live her life the way she does. getting raped WASN'T a choice, other wise it wouldnt be rape.
you MUST seek help sweetie. if you were forced to have sex, ie raped, you have to tell someone. a family member, a friend, or professional help. best of luck to you.

Answer 8

Well, virginity goes to the person you love but it also means whether any man touched you or not. He touched you so technically... yes you did.
No, you are NOT a sLuT or a whore and britney is just so out of it that I don't know what's wrong with her! :?
But were you going out with this guy?? How did you even come into contact with him for heaven's sakes?

Answer 9

I'm terribly sorry about your loss.
Yes, this means you lost your virginity at 13 years old.
And no, it does not mean you are following in Brittney Spears footsteps unless you continued her traditions; being raped is almost always unplanned and unexpected, it is not the victim's fault.

Answer 10

you were raped. the jerk who did that to you can not take your virginity. yes, maybe he took it in a physical sense, but not really. you only lose your virginity when you want to, to the person you love. Just because some sicko raped you doesn't make you a whore or a s**t. Unless you wanted it, & keep wanting it, you aren't a s**t or a whore.

(& i'm really sorry about you getting raped. that must make life really difficult. i hope the b***erd who did that is caught & put in prison)

Answer 11

Did you report it?
If not then you need to...

If you were raped and he penetrated you then yes you did lose your virginity.
And NO it does not mean your are a sl*t or a whore.
It means you were a victim..

Good luck in the healing process...