My boyfriend has been talking a lot about getting married lately, and I am afraid of that little glint in his eyes. However, I'm not really big on marriage, love...those things. My parents have been married for years but have argued and said they hated each other since the day I was born. So, I can't really model a good marriage off of that. So, why did you get married? And are you happy? The whole thought of marriage makes me sick to my stomach but I'm trying to get over it.
2007-12-21 14:41:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You'll get over it in a few years when everyone who ever cared about you moves on because they cant get through to your heart.
2007-12-21 14:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
We got married because we had been dating for almost ten years. I guess we just felt pressure to make it "official". I hate to say this, but things have been awful ever since. We've managed just fine for 9 years and now that we are married there is like this invisible tension that we just can't seem to break. We are stressed out , yelling, not speaking and already talking divorce. I honestly wish we had just never got married and "dated" for the rest of our lives.
I'm the offspring of a bad divorce and was terrified to get married. We dated for so long and I finally gave in.. I swore to myself I would never be like my parents. And here I am :(
2007-12-21 23:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i married my husband for many reasons, some good and some bad. i do not regret any of those reasons or the choice i made, even though the marriage is rocky right now. to me, marriage = a life together. a partner in life's battles that are sure to come. a team mate in raising children, as it is very hard to do alone. sometimes we argue, and say we hate eachother. sometimes we do terrible things just to hurt eachother, but still, i do not regret choosing him to share the rest of my life with. i got married so that i could go through this world with someone who loves me, and that i love, by my side.
2007-12-21 22:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how old you are...that's first off.
I can see why you have a tainted background of marriage. That's a $hitty thing for your parents to say to you. And with 50% of marriages failing nowadays, no wonder people are scared to make the plunge.
I got married because I knew that he was the one. I knew that he loved me like no other person has ever loved me. I knew that i didn't want to be with anyone else but him. I knew that I wanted to have children with him one day.
You just know...
2007-12-21 23:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by qtpie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it makes u sick to your stomach u shouldn't get married. i got married cos i love him and we couldn't physically exist one without other. even we have been togehter for 3 years now i still count hours when he will be back from work. marriage here came without any question - it was obvious, cos we just couldn't exist one without another. and i am very happy and he is the most perfect man ever. so i suggest until u find your perfect man without whom u can't exist u don't marry. life might be pretty miserable if u marry the wrong person. i know that cos my first marriage was pretty miserable
2007-12-21 22:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married 'cuz I was in luuuuv! We've been through some tough times, but still in love and happy! Maybe you're just not ready. You don't have to be like your parents. You can have the marraige you want to have. Communicate and let your sig. other know how you feel and what you want or don't want in a relationship.
2007-12-21 22:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by im sure 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone is the marrying type. so if u dont want to get married just say no. and ur boyfriend would have to deal with it or leave. if he leaves then let it be u werent meant to be. u cant do something that u know its not u just to make someone else happy. u have to think about what makes u happy or then u will regret it afterwards for thinking about others instead of urself
2007-12-21 22:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married because I got pregnant and my parents made me marry him. BIG MISTAKE!! eventhough I love that man to death but we fight all the time and we're both sick of it. It's like we don't really know each other... been together 4 years married for 2
2007-12-21 22:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by Janice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought he would be an excellent father and I loved kissing him. Sounds silly I know but it was why. Now it's over 10 yrs. later and he is the best father and I still love to kiss him. He's also so much more everything has just gotten better. I hope God blesses you and helps you to make the right decision.
2007-12-21 22:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by lissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you follow your heart and what ever it tells you, you listen to it.
When i got married the first time it was true love for him and me, but even then it was not enought to hold us together in the end. And the second time i just had my head up my butt didn't know what i was thinking there. But i say listen to your heart. Best of luck and a Merry Christmas
2007-12-22 01:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Toni A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not the one.
When the right one comes along, you'll believe in fairytales.
I got married before I thought love was real. Grew up in an earthly hell, and married to escape it.
2007-12-21 22:56:41 · answer #11 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋