how ! !!!!!!! when your heart is broken?
2007-12-21 14:11:26 · 20 answers · asked by ♥BEX♥ 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Ok Bex - try this, might sound bizarre but it helps. Imagine yourself and the other person connected by a cord or ribbon, one on each end. Imagine a big pair of scissors cutting that cord so you are severed from each other. Visualise the other person floating away in the distance, gone. Now get rid of everything that reminds you of that person - have a little ritual of burning stuff (if that is possible). Now the last part, visualise yourself happy, smiling and getting on with your life without that person. It works Bex. (but only if you want it to) xxxx
2007-12-21 20:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
For me, the best way to move on when you have a broken heart is just to cry about it.
Cry until there are no more tears left to cry. Then....you can look back and realize that who you were with, or what your heart was broken over was meaningless compared to the many other sufferings in the world.
Then, if that doesn't work: dance around you house in your underware like no one's watching; even if the whole world is!
=]
2007-12-21 22:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Morgan J 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Right ! what can I do to help? What have you already done? What do you want to do?At this time of the year you:-
make a list ; check it twice ;see who is naughty and who is nice.
On the first list you write down all the nice things about the relationship and on the second list you write down all the not so nice things.
Then you write a list about yourself and all your good points and one with all his good points.
Then a list with your bad points and his bad points.
Lastly a list about your life now and his life now.
Compare the lists.
Write him a letter every week, telling him how you are feeling BUT DON'T POST THEM. Put them under your mattress and each week, read the last ones -after a couple of months you'll cringe at what you wrote in the first couple of weeks !
What's the betting that life is better NOW-only slightly, maybe, but better.
BUT maybe not -so what can you do?
what can you afford to do?
Decorate the bedroom-pack up any 'men' things in the bathroom/bedroom and take to a charity shop-put photos away in a drawer-change your hair style/make-up-colour coordinate your wardrobe and pack up what you haven't worn for a year and take those to the charity shop, too -change your phone number(swap sim cards with someone is easiest)
If he can't get you by phone , he'll have to knock the door !!
You don't have to do it today - make a New Year resolution to do it- and remember 2008 is a leap year !
Good luck! cheer up for the kids -it's Christmas !
2007-12-22 02:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by nanny chris w 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
bex a quiet room and bit of paper draw a line down middle one side write possitive second negative.
Trust me the negative with far outweigh the possitive and then you can move on.
We learn from our mistakes Bex knothing you can do about was was but lots you can do for your own personal happiness and future and that of your children.
It is not easy but in the end you will get there i did after my divorce. I learnt a brand new career a proffesional job I adored and met a wonderful man so their is life after heartache.
You do know if you opened your mail box the love would flood through to you 100 times over Bex people care about you on here and I am one of them.
2007-12-22 05:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by momof3 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
moving on is never easy but things are mended through time and memories if u live of the memories a broken heart will slowly mend it might still have fine cracks but the pieces will be together remeber nothing is perfect we all must be put through these heart breaking times in life so we are made stronger in mind spirit and soul life wil always throw tough times at you but there are always solutions to direct us i truly believe that memories are life what life would we have if there were no memories love will find itself again .....
2007-12-22 15:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by beckylouabdare 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When your heart is broken like a dry stick
and try as you will you don' hear it tick
do not dwell on times gone by
go to the kitchen and bake a pie
you will soon forget your pain
and you"l be ready to live again
2007-12-21 22:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by The Count of Montanelas 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Jesus wept. And then he raised a dead man.
All of us as human beings are heart broken at times which is normal. But we make the best of it and things will work out okay.
Peace.
2007-12-22 03:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by Uncle Remus 54 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't have the answer Bex I don't think my heart will ever heal again I'm told the best to hope for is with time the pain won't lessen but you learn to live with it.
2007-12-22 03:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by Wide Awake 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Only time will help with this one, honey. Sorry, but it's the truth. Just don't let yourself wallow in the pain forever. Let it go after a time. Go forward as if it never happened. Put a smile on your face. One day, you'll wake up and it won't hurt so much.
I'm thinking of you.
2007-12-21 22:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
one day or one moment at a time...broken heartedness is a part of our human experience and we grow by it...
hey i didn't make the rules...
and i don't always like the rules or think they are fair, but we move on anyway eventually.
2007-12-21 23:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by captsnuf 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋