I am in-love with one of my guy friends.
We've been friends for 6 years, and I have liked him for all those years.
But lately, I got tired of hoping and decided to get over him.
Then I thought...I'm stupid 'cause I was hoping for nothing.
For those 6 years I never told him I loved him, and now I think I should tell him.
I wasn't being fair to myself expecting him to know how I feel without telling him.
But at the same time I'm scared....scared of being rejected by the guy who I loved for 6 years...
Will telling him be good for me?
If he rejects me....will it help me get over him?
and stop me from hoping?
2007-12-21 13:58:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are unfair to you both. Tell him.
2007-12-21 14:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky to be in-love for 6 years. If you let him know sooner then you would have gotten together and had a great and beautiful romance. Then someone would have gotten on the other's nerves and then you would be sick of each other and you would be anything but in-love. All of that wouldn't even last close to 6 years.
I think being in-love is really a marvelous and beautiful feeling. I haven't felt that way about anybody for quite some time. I truly believe the only way that in-love feeling will last a long time though is if either one of the lovers dies before things got nasty or like your situation where one person doesn't even know and the person in-love just holds on like a rock.
Live a little longer, you'll see I'm right. Everyone turns out to be a pain in the @ss sooner or later.
Go ahead and tell him though. Even if he returns your feelings, I guarantee it will not last nearly as long as the 6 years you held onto those feelings.
Do it... prove me wrong, make it last because even though all reason and sensibility tells me it won't, I would honestly love to see that happen.
2007-12-21 22:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there!
Coincidentally, I had a similar experience, just that i am in the guy's shoes. The girl is still my best friend now.
Ok let's look at your situation.
Basically there is only 2 answers that he can give you.
A 'yes', that he felt the same way as you.
Or a 'no', that he want u as his friend forever.
Either answer will affect you dramatically, I assure you, i know.
But, i also assure you that it will NOT affect your frenship unless you allow it to.
I would encourage you to tell him your feelings about him.
Whatever the answer may be, let nature takes its course.
Well, I understand your hopes and how you would like to be romantically involved with him.
This is what happend between me n my best friend, hope that it'll give u something to think about.
After being frens for more than a decade, she told me she fell in love wif me as we grew up. I grew fond of her as a sister, nothing more - i really can't imagine kissing her romantically. I told her my honest feelings, and of course she was dashed. We promised to be best freinds always, but she start to distant herself from me. I, on the other hand, refuse to lose my best fren and i kept looking for her, pestering her, call her, visit her family as i always did. Slowly and gradually her hurt went away and she is able to accept and understand how i feel towards her. Now we're married to our own partners and are still best friends! We still talk about what happend and laugh it away! It became a memory I n her will cherish for the rest of our lives.
So, there is a 50% chance that the guy will love u back.
And the other 50% is that the guy will defend your friendship no matter what. Since there's nothing to lose, go for it!!
2007-12-21 22:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! you better deal with it, go out to dinner, tell him what you are feeling, dont try to get a response from him right away, guys need time to think, just tell him and tell him that you want him to think about what you said for a few days, then leave him alone until he contacts you, it will be very hard, the days will seem like years, but you have already waited six years for him to make a move, you can wait a few days more and know.
2007-12-21 22:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How does someone know that you are in love with them? They do not until you let them know that you are! You here so many People out they're saying these same comments, and all they need to do is tell this girl or guy, Hey.. I really am attracted to you and I just thought I needed to be honest! I mean, communicating is such a lost art anymore :P
2007-12-21 22:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him you "love" him. You will just freak him out. Instead, say something like you wouldn't mind being more than just friends if he's interested or you have strong feelings for him. But you're right - you may as well find out if there's anything there instead of continuing to wonder.
2007-12-21 22:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Pogo peeps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he rejects you, it WILL hurt BUT it will bring closure.You can live in fear, or face your fear by being ready to deal with the possible hurt.Could be he may feel the same towards you but is fearful of being rejected.You wont know unless you talk to him.If he tells you he is not romantically interested in you, then move on.
2007-12-21 22:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be scared...you were going to give up on him anyways so then if you ask him out and he rejects you then...you got what you wanted...:)
trust me...take the risk its worth it...if you get rejected...you mend your wounds and you move on ..you gain life experience. Stop overthinking things and make a decision already!!
good luck with everything, best wishes to you.
HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!
I hope he likes you back :P
2007-12-21 22:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by audri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends... he might be offended or weirded out by it if you tell him. He also might think it is kinda a little I don't know... clingy or junior high like. Then again he might like you too. You might as well tell him, 'cause whatever happens you'll not be uncomfortable around him... like I am sure you are now
2007-12-21 22:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by Follow-the-narrow-gate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OKAAY! heres what you do. you just walk right up to him and tell him you are madly inlove with him, and whatever he says you'll finnaly know. i mean you DONT know! you just need to know so you can be like oh he isnt into me ( if he isnt ) and move on with your life! CMON be brave!
NICOLE
2007-12-21 22:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually i can't really see right now what you're doing out there....so can't answer for sure you know.
2007-12-21 22:00:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋