Do you spoil....?

Question

Do you spoil your kids on christmas?? My 9 yr old daughter gets everything she ask for with the expection of one or two things...this year, i got her a littlest pet shop paws off diary, puppies in my pocket, my littlest pet shop plug and play game, shinning stars yellow lab, frog and bug habitat, hannah montana star headset, littlest pet shop round and round pet town, razor e200 electric scooter, a 12 foot trampoline, high school musical dance mat, dogz 2 playstation2 game, seal webkinz, yellow lab webkinz, , white terrier webkinz, husky webkinz, chuihua webkinz, turtle webkinz and the wow wee fly tech dragon fly remote control

I,also have a 22 month old son and he got 10 gifts

my daughter is not a sopiled brat and appreciates everything she gets...during the year, she gets a few gifts here and there just because...the rest she goes out and gets it with her allowance that she earns by doing chores and whatnot

stepahnie loves sam.....I d not get my daughter whatever she wants...she had the fur real butterscotch pony on there and that is 250.00...i refused to get that so i do not get whatever she wants and she does not come to expect everything

my parents did the same for me growing up and i had 2 other siblings and we were not spoiled brats

Answer 1

i plan on spoiling my son!

i didnt get much this year because he's only 5months but i plan on it next year!!

this year i just bought TONS of clothes & shoes. & toy wise, hes getting a jump-a-roo, some jungle thing that he puts balls into (i forget the name, lol), books, a star stacker, hmm.. tonnns of link-a-doos (hes obsessed with them), andd a couple other small things for his stocking.

Answer 2

Hello,
It is nice a person can afford to spoil there kids, however not everyone is fortunate enough to do so.
Not only can everyone not afford to do this through money, but there is a mental thing that happens when one spoils a child.
The child gets selfish, rude,whiny, tantrums, then the child grows up a whole new set of problems set it.
So in the end the parents are not doing the kid any good by spoiling them.
Most religions frown on this as well.
Plus I really thing people who spoil there children like this are bragging in a way, "look at what I am doing. I must be a better parent then you because I can buy my kids anything they want", get it?
I have a sister like you and her kid is now older and feels the world revolves around him, totally revolves around him from what another person is wearing to what kind of car they are driving. That kid wont even talk to most people because they are not as good as he is. My sister created this monster by spoiling him. Hopefully this kid never has to stand on his own two feet, just think if he does and fails what is going to happen to his self esteme.
How much does self esteme cost again...

Answer 3

My kids are 20 and 15 now. They do not respect you at all if they get it all. They expect and require restictions-if you fail, they raise the bar.

The kids should not be the ones who determine the expenses you make. You do with your income. Never go overboard to please anyone. You will have to live with what you save or lose.

If nothing else, you do know an income is not forever. How many mos of exp. do you have saved? If you can not float at least 3 mos. of all exp., you better reevaluate what you spend.

My kids respect that i keep them in a good home with all that they have. If I spend a mere 120 on them at Chrsitmas, they are good with that too as long as I spend it wisely. No kid likes mindless crap. We all know it ends up under their beds anyway.

Do not contribute to the mind drain we have going here. Kids need and respect limits. If they see you expending your limits for a holiday, they will probably do the same.

Instill success and responsibility instead. They can deal with not havin all their friends have.

Answer 4

I always spluge on Christmas. But sometimes we get sooo caught up in spoiling our kids, that it's easy to forget the true meaning of Christmas. Every year my kids have gotten very expensive gifts, and this year I started my own business, so were gona figure out the true meaning. Were just buying everyone a LITTLE something and wow, my kids are taking it extremely well. I think it's great when you can do this, and if you have it, spend it, you can't take it with ya right! God bless!

Answer 5

If you don't buy your kids everything they absolutely want during the year then I don't see anything wrong with buying them a lot of gifts for Christmas - and only if you have the money. But make sure your kids know that Christmas is not just about receiving. Maybe take them to pick out gifts for other people.

Answer 6

And the reason for the season is......? My philosophy has always been the only way to spoil children is to treat them like fruit... don't handle too roughly of ignore for too long. Kids get way overwhelmed with all this "stuff" and as a reasonable parent it's your job to protect them from their lust for MORE. For heaven's sake at least give all this plastic-crap-you'll-be-picking up off-the-floor-for-weeks to your precious little one in small does. They get so over sensitized with everything at once and just maybe if they have time between they may forget the one or two things you missed.

Answer 7

This year will be my baby's first Christmas, so I think I'm letting Grandma and Grandpa "spoil" him. People love to get stuff for my little guy, so I figure, let em!

However, by age 9, your daughter might start EXPECTING to get everything on her list. Then she'll end up like the spoiled cousin on Harry Potter and start DEMANDING and throwing tantrums to get what she wants. If she's a good kid and "deserves" to be "spoiled," it's okay on special occasions. Just try not to do it to the point your child controls you... YOU are the parent!

Answer 8

WOW!! That's a lot of stuff for a 9 year old. We get our only child a bunch of stuff, educational toys, books, a couple of movies, none of which sets us back more than about $10 per item. He's also been known to get stuff from yard sales. This year, he got the boxer shorts he's been asking for, but only because his little tighty whiteys finally got too small.

Your list seems a bit excessive. How long are you paying for all that?


Oh, yeah, and how long do you think she'll be playing with it?

Answer 9

I grew up with very little, many times we didnt even have food to eat. My brothers and I never got our hopes up for anything, even Christmas because it hurt too much to be let down. Coming up like that I learned to appreciate everything that I got. Now that I am a mother of a 4 yr old boy, I try to not let him do without but I do not go over board with anything. My mother spoils him, I guess since she wasnt able to spoil us, but I refuse to go crazy for christmas. The one time that I did, he was scared and didnt want to open anything, so that didnt happen again. Anyhow, I wont spoil my son with material things, just love.

Answer 10

i'm the sole female having 2 older brothers. so definite I have been given spoiled by potential of each and every person. And on social gathering my mothers and fathers nevertheless destroy me (and my little ones) My husband spoils me.. yet now that i'm someone i will destroy back(my mothers and fathers and husband enormously) i like it!