Me and my husband have been married for 3 years and I have never cheated on him. I don't even have male friends. Last night I was online and someone im'd me that I didn't know and asked how I liked the army base that I am stationed at b/c he was stationed here a few years back. He wasn't trying to get me to get on webcam or talk dirty or anything; we just talked about the army and stuff for a little while. My husband found that I had im's from this guy on the history on our browser and he has been blowing up at me all day over it. I think he's being a little hypocritical b/c he was watching live webcam shows for a few months before I finally convinced him it was disrespectful to me. WTF is his deal? I didn't even flirt w/this guy...
2007-12-21 13:17:49 · 17 answers · asked by ashley b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"If you have nothing to hide, hide nothing"
If everything was innocent, why not ask him if he would like to look at the messages? That way he can assure himself that it is all so innocent.
He might just be insecure as others have said, or he might be all too aware of the lure of the Net, and doesn't want you into that.
It could be that with you having told him off for an Internet thing, that he feels you are being a little hypocritical for you to do the same (in his eyes).
If you really want to know why don't you ask him, when things have calmed down a bit?
2007-12-21 13:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is just my opinion but if you trust each other and have a healhty enough relationship, you should both be able to and allwoed to speak to others of the oppositee sex, and especially if it is kept to non-sexual subject matter. Perhaps an agreement of sorts that you will not discuss such topics with the opposite sex. I think part of it is that you got on to him for something kind of similar and now it does seem hyprocritcal. But I do also acknowlege they are two different things. In addition, if he read your history and saw that it was innocent, I think he should allow for a little slack. Bottom line though is that I think the both of you need to sit down and calmly discuss it, perhaps set some kind of agreeable boundaries or just come to an understanding. Let each other know how much you love each other and why each scenario bothered you and then suggestions on how to avoid it in the future. Good luck with everything.
2007-12-21 13:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sovereign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is classic, Male Dominance... 2 wrongs do not make a right! And regardless of what he did, you did it too even if it wasn't anything more than a chat. Men will always be "allowed" to flirt, etc... Women cannot, willnot, & never can be allowed the same type of behavior. Don't you just hate Eve sometimes? She so screwed this up for us...
2007-12-21 13:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband must have a jealous personality. He is probably asking himself why you would want to be talking to another man and blowing it way out of proportion.
He is being hypocritical and I don't think you need to justify your actions to him, considering you did nothing wrong.
2007-12-21 13:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by Bindy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess he feels that YOU were disrespectful to HIM. You both seem to need a little help from someone who can teach you better communication skills. Neither of you is property...and you need to talk this over so that you don't hurt each other in the future. Good luck to you both!
2007-12-21 13:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by Gina C 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get over it i chat to girls and guys all the time on here and play on webcam 2 my wife is ok with it
2007-12-21 13:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's worried that you'll find someone better than him especially after the webcam incident that upset you.
2007-12-21 14:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be understanding.
You got mad at him for doing something you didn't like that was seen as untrustworthy or demeaning to you and now he is mad at you for essentially the same thing.
Just apologize, say you WERE WRONG, and promise to never do it again and DON'T do it again.
When men contact you like that online they want only one thing, and if you believe they don't either you're niave or gullible.
2007-12-21 13:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's probably pissed because you didn't tell him about the conversation(doesn't matter that it was innocent, you talked to another man and didn't tell your husband about it).
2007-12-21 14:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little case of jealousy, he'll get over it.
2007-12-21 13:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by Who Knew? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋