I had my baby about 6 weeks ago via c-section, my boyfriend doesnt understand how uncomfortable it is for me to have sex, it's painful and I can't seem to get into it, I think he thinks im lying and just trying to get out of having sex with him..does anyone have any recommendations?
2007-12-21 13:15:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if he doesnt understand that...he might be a jerk hun...lol.
no but, just explain to him...sex is great for yall!! but it hurts, and he should be understanding and caring enough to realize this. having a baby shouldnt be taken lightly by him! and a c-section is a MAJOR surgery! ....i hate men. lol.
2007-12-21 13:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jada and Ty's mommy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try sidelying and taking it slow. C section does interupt some nerves in the abdominal area that are in the errogenous zone over the pubis. Also recently having a baby makes you tired and hormones to inhibit sex drive after a baby (nature doesn't want you making another one so soon!). Use some lube and try not to have high expectations the first few encounters after having a baby. Explain what areas are sensitive so he won't accidentally touch or rub an area that is still sensitive.
2007-12-21 21:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mom and nurse. 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure why it is painful. I had a c-section with my daughter and I had sex right after my 6 week follow up. Sound slike you have an insensitive partner. It takes alot to have a baby and he should be patient. You had major surgery. Tell him to get some porn and hand lotion until you are ready.
2007-12-21 21:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by Alexandra 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he just needs to understand that you just had a child! weather you had it vaginally or by cesarean its going to be painful for a while. i think they tell you to wait between 6-8 weeks but im not exactly sure, don't quote me. i know when i had my daughter 13 months ago....last nov....it took me until about feb to have the desire. (i didn't have the desire from 5 months preggo on, as a matter of fact, cause it was uncomfortable for me.)
he just needs to realize that. everything has changed in there the past 10 months....and now so even more because you're starting to go back to what you were before pregnancy...things aren't going to be normal for a lil bit yet.
hang in there. you know what you went through...hes a male he just doesn't WANT to understand! haha. ;)
try looking up some links for him to read. see if that helps him understand alittle bit better.
X3
2007-12-21 21:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by rock star mommy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have had 4 c-sections and totally understand where you are coming from. I would put a pillow on my stomach or lay on my stomach. Sex wasnt the greatest but it helped. Good luck
2007-12-21 21:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by stacy l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had a c-section 8 weeks ago today.
my husband and i have tried sex a few times, and ive found that it has been very painful. almost more painful than having sex for the first time.
tell him to go slow. if its hurting then stop.
2007-12-21 21:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but your bf needs to grow up and understand that you had major surgery.
Google c-section and print the graphic pictures and description of the surgery and ask him if he was cut they way you were does he think that he would be back to 100% so fast.
I am sorry you have a selfish jerk for a boyfriend!
2007-12-21 21:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
heyy am sorry but you have an insited selfish bf....i dont have babyys or c-section but my cousin when true and so did my mother and it hurt like a *****...soo take him with u to ur next dr appt and have the dc tell him bout it...cause it look like he think is nothin
2007-12-21 21:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by ...:Flakaaa:... . 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
is he stupid? he should undrstand what's your situation. having a c-section is a hard time for mothers like you. having those stiches is quite long time to heal. he should try to cut his own dick! lol!
go ask the doctor bout it and let the doctor explain evrything to him!
2007-12-21 21:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by aNna cHix 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him to knock it off or you'll cut it off.........lol
no for real tho, that's disrespectful...i can be painful and the fact that you are not wanting it makes it even more painful if you are tense...have you talked about it with him when you aren't in the moment?? he might take you more seriously if you bring it up at a different time..... or maybe do other things to calm his urges *wink, wink.....
2007-12-21 21:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by BROWN SKIN LADY 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋