I've tried hundreds of times to sit and talk to her about this and other stuff, but when I start talking to her about sex and love, it's like I'm talking to a 10foot thick concrete wall with steel reinforced beams, she ignores me, makes believe she hasn't heard me, makes me repeat what I asked, then ignores it again and/or changes subject. I get pissed and go to our room and tell her I'll be waiting upstairs for her to come to bed, but she won't come up. Worst of all, even if I get mad and slam the door (don't do it much though, doors are expensive!) she won't even come up, and the next morning, she'll be all like everything is honky dory happy! Like nothing ever happened! I hate it.
If I start talking about her games or horses, then she's all ears and won't stop talking! And then If I change subject and go back to our relationship or ask her to make love, she's deaf again or suddenly extremely tired and exausted! Funny how that works! Are all women like that?
2007-12-21 12:56:47 · 5 answers · asked by Camelot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In response to Loladrewblue, I've tried listening, and letting her tell me if there was a problem or anything she was not happy with, but when she starts talking, all that comes out of her mouth, is about soccer, horses, cats, birds, or anything else than our relationship! I can't force her to talk if she just won't!
2007-12-21 13:45:56 · update #1
maybe you are being too leniant....what I mean is, where is the passion, the excitement? If you are just sitting back and talking to her about it, then she probably doesn't want to chat....but a romantic dinner cooked by you or a bubble bath made by you might lighten her up a bit......perhaps if the bubble bath came with a personal cleaning boy......or if the meal came with a game like, say, only you can feed her or some other sweet thing.....as the night progresses, instead of settling or watching tv or talking anymore, take control. Pick her up, smother her with kisses and walk her butt to the bed....or whereever. If that doesn't work....try taking her to a horse show or to go horseback riding or something.....make it a day all about her....and at night, repeat above. good luck!
2007-12-21 13:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking and try listening. I didn't say this to be negative but, it seems to me she is not interested in sex and you need to find out why by asking the right questions and be gentle about it. Slamming doors, yelling, and demanding is not going to work. Being patient and showing tenderness goes a long way in resolving this problem with your wife
2007-12-21 21:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by loladrewblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she loves you, but isn't in love with you.
2007-12-21 21:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope not all of us is like that...just the ones that are not interested...sorry.....
2007-12-21 21:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by just bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No .... we dont all play stupid childish games
2007-12-21 20:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Neil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋