Ok, people.. just wanna know.. why should I come out? Should people (family, friends, relatives) know about my sexual orientation? Why do they have to know? If they know I'm gay, I'm sure it will change things, how they treat me as a friend etc.
I've recently realized I'm gay. I told ONE friend about it & she told me it didn’t sink in to her yet and she’s still trying to process it. I have no problem with this friend of mine, I trust her & it was kind of a relief to me that I told her, and that someone knew.
I don’t have a girlfriend & I’m not in love right now, but I’m happy. I’ve accepted myself for who I am & for what I am but I don’t think people will still be accepting if they knew I’m gay. I have lots of friends but lately when I talk to them I feel like I’m cheating on them because they don’t know I’m gay, but then again, why do they have to know?
2007-12-21 10:42:41 · 6 answers · asked by ash 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
These are the questions just repeating it. Have to know what you think.
Why should I come out?
Should people (family, friends, & relatives) know about my sexual orientation?
If they do.. why do they have to know?
2007-12-21 10:43:50 · update #1
Come out when you are ready to do so and under your terms. If, however, you have told one person and that person has told another, you no longer have a secret. Your family will find out sooner or later. It is often better to tell them yourself rather than let them discover it from someone else. If you know your secret is safe, keep it until you are ready.
You are not cheating on anyone. Your sexual orientation is of no concern to anyone else. When you find a girlfriend and you want to make your love public so she is accepted by your family and friends, come out then with the support of your partner. Until then, if someone doesn't need to know, they don't need to know.
This is not putting down your sexual orientation, it is just minimising conflict that might occur. I had no problems with family or friends when I came out but I waited until my mid 20s when I was happy with my sexual orientation and had sorted it out.
2007-12-21 10:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by tentofield 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's all up to you. I'm bi and I've only told it to two other people (you make three). I haven't told my mom. I don't think she would be comfortable accepting the fact that I like girls as I do guys. I know the rest of my family would act like I have the plaque or something.
I think as long as you are happy with yourself and have accepted yourself for who you are, then keep it like that. The whole world doesn't need to know your orientation. Don't change yourself to make others happy. Just make yourself happy.
Best wishes & good luck.
2007-12-21 18:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by ravenrogue84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to come out if you don't want to. Your family should love you the same regardless of your orientation. Honestly it's your choice, and your life, you decide where it shall go.
2007-12-21 18:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Dan21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you're comfortable with. If you want to tell them then you can. If you don't then you don't have to. It's no one's business but your own.
2007-12-21 18:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because Christmas eve is in 3 three days!
2007-12-21 19:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by kibbles 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Cuz it's more fun than eating your vegetables.
2007-12-21 18:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋