My husband thinks i crazy because I'm gettng upset over his mom buying our son first christmas outfit and also giving him a card that says baby first christmas. I told my husband that I wanted to buy his first outfit and card for him but he thinks i should not get upset and leave it alone. So what do you think.
2007-12-21 08:35:14 · 19 answers · asked by heavenlildevil78 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
The only reason i want to be the first is my mom did the same with me and my brothers and also my mom passed away. I just want to keep the tradtion going
2007-12-21 08:42:35 · update #1
My MIL bought all of our 'babies first christmas outfits". One less thing for us to buy, actually. I was thankful.
If you wanted to be the first, don't worry about it. It isn't about who purchased it first, but which outfit he wears. So, buy him one and let him wear it first!
2007-12-21 08:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay - let's step and look at this. Nothing she does can take away from what you do!
You are being a little over-emotional - but understandably so. And it is perfectly understandable that a doting grandmother will want to buy her grandchild a cute outfit. My children always had 3 or 4! Everyone likes to buy cute baby clothes.
So here: Babies will usually go through more than one outfit in a day.
Start you day off in the outfit YOU bought. Take his pictures in that outfit, save that outfit to pass down. Same with the card. Save only the card YOU give him.
And when he needs a diaper change, change his outfit. It will be a small gesture that will please your MIL far beyond the cost to you for doing it. And NOT doing it will create a lot more issues that it is worth.
Trust me, I've been through this all myself and realize that in the bigger picture things like this are really not worth my energy to worry about. With your first everything is SO important, but keep in mind the long-term relationship with your family and MIL - especially since she is the only grandmother your child has.
Take a deep breath. It will all work out.
2007-12-21 17:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe there are any rules on that. some families have certain customs or trafitions though. The card for first christmas, you'll probably get many. Like some others said, change outfits during the day or have one for christmas Eve and one for Christmas Day. But be sure to take pictures of him in both outfits. There is no reason to get all upset on this, they'll be many more holidays to come. Relax and enjoy yourself and this new little one.
2007-12-21 16:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she bought an outfit dosn't mean he needs to wear it. It's up to you. Is it really that big of a deal? I agree put him in an outfit that you choose and let him wear the one from grandma for awhile. The card is just a card it's not like she bought the card for you to give to your son. Maybe I am coming off kinda of strong but my son doesn't have grandparents on my side and my husbands parents don't get into buying anything for our son. I would feel pretty lucky if I was you and your son has someone in his life who loves him so much that they took time out to buy him those things. Think of the happiness this brought your MIL, I am sure she is just beaming to be a Grandma and meant no harm from it.
2007-12-21 16:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by sanzoe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain your reason to your husband, and then try to come to a compromise. Just because it's "baby's first Christmas" doesn't mean they only get one outfit. I have two small children, and have learned that they go through several outfits a day. They get dirty, pooped on, or who knows what. Go and take your son to the store, buy his outfit and card. BUT let your mother in law buy hers too. You can save the one you buy forever, but your son can wear both. You can go get professional pictures or something with one outfit, and go to a party or get together with the other. Both sides are important. To keep your family happy, and keep your traditions going. Try to find a way to do both. Good luck.
2007-12-21 16:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by galadriel698 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to side with your husband on this one. If grandma & grandpa want to buy the outfit, you should graciously accept the gift, and be glad you don't have to put out the money for it.
Grandma & grandpa will have less time to spend with their grandchild, and it's a relationship that you should encourage, so I think you should let it go.
Maybe you could find a baby's first Christmas book or ornament that would help you feel better about making it special for him, while allowing your in-laws to participate at the same time.
2007-12-21 16:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be grateful you have generous in-laws. Buy the ones that you want, say they were the first. He will have 2, big deal. I found that it is a nice tradition to also buy dated ornaments for your baby. The nice thing about this tradition is you can do it every year and then when he needs them he will have a tree full of ornaments that his MOM bought him. I go to Hallmark they have a baby's first second etc..... My son is 5 and they don't carry it past 6 so he started a new collection and he loves them. He finds them every year on the tree and points out HIS ornaments!!
2007-12-21 17:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Devon and Paige's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know, I'm more like you in that aspect. I wanna be the first that gets her her 1st everything LOL. You are the mom, if you wanna buy your baby's first xmas outfit then do it and tell your husband it means a lot to you. Your MIL already got to do that with her children. Who cares if she feels bad about it? I wouldn't and I actually have it my way with the things that really matter to me, IT IS MY child after all. Put your foot down and get him what you want .
2007-12-21 16:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The outfit would annoy me a bit, but not the card. He can get a first christmas card from anyone. I would use the outfit she gave you as his Christmas Eve outfit, and buy your own Christmas day outfit (or vice versa).
2007-12-21 22:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by berrel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think anyone that would get upset over something as trivial as this is very self centered and insecure in their own life.
It's an outfit, for crying out loud. She probably bought the outfit because she loves the baby very much and it was appearing to her that you weren't going to get one.
Suck it up and enjoy the fact that your husbands parents care that much.
2007-12-23 10:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by bobin66086 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could use your partners mums outfit for christmas and have yours as a spare for after dinner, thats if your baby is onto foods. If not you could use 1 of the outfits for boxing day or xmas eve. Either way it was nice of her to buy the outfit and aslong as you like it is it really a problem
2007-12-21 17:56:06 · answer #11 · answered by missemma111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋