I love my boyfriend, we are in a very serious committed relationship and frequently talk about getting married in the future. I knew before we started dating that he is bisexual and it took a little while to get used to the idea but it really doesn't bother me at all. However when we go out or something and he sees a guy he finds attractive he points them out to me, he knows it kinda bugs me when he comments like that about other girls so he doesn't do it anymore but still points out guys he finds attractive. This is starting to get on my nerves, I am pretty sure if he knew it bothered me he would stop, or at least cut it down a decent bit, but I really don't want to offend him by bringing it up. What would be the best way to approach this situation?
2007-12-21 08:35:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Let him know that his comments about attractive guys bother you in the same way his comments about attractive girls do. It's the same conversation.
2007-12-21 08:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by canes77 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you are in a strong relationship, you should be able to open up to him about anything without him dumping your or being offended. Just nicely tell him that this thing makes you uncomfortable and maybe even embarrasses you. If you two are really in love he will respect that.
Just be careful with the relationship, that sounds like a pretty rocky one to me
2007-12-21 08:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey.. Im curious why you found it acceptable to let him know his pointing out other WOMEN made you uncomfortable and yet you dont want to OFFEND him by letting him know it bugs you when he points out men...
We ALL have our boundaries... and yours is not beyond the realm of "acceptable."
Be honest. Tell him. It can only make your relationship stronger. To keep something in begins to create a wall of separation.
.
2007-12-21 08:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is much better that he talks to YOU about guys rather than to someone else. He probably trusts you and it is natural for him to share his intimate thoughts with you. I'd be more worried if he kept those feelings inside or talked to other people about who he finds attractive. I'd say, just accept it and don't worry about it. Feel free to tease him by saying: "You have the worst taste in the world when it comes to guys!'
2007-12-21 08:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are in a relationship a person is going to point out another person he or she finds attractive and this case he goes both ways. tell him that it bothers you but you also have to except the fact that it is human nature.
2007-12-21 09:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him tell him how u feel about him commenting on other guys let him know that it bothers u da same way as when he would comment on qurls i dont think it would offend him i mean dont u think it would bother him if u pointed out quys u thouqht were attractive.
2007-12-21 10:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off. Why does it bother you? If you trust him, and you know he is going to be in your arms, then why are you worried.
But, to answer your question, Talk to him. If he knows it bothers you, he probably will stop doing it. Remember though, he is only human. And if someone catches his eye, he will want to share with you.
He seems to want to share with you. Enjoy this. Most guys don't share much with others. My wife is bi. And I really enjoy when she shares with me.
2007-12-21 08:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by cowboywithavoice_mason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tactfully mention it, try to make sure he knows it isn't about bi just that mentioning other guys bieng attractive is as bad as mentioning girls and he did stop mentioning girls he liked you said
2007-12-21 08:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be polite, but you should ask him to stop. It's kinda rude for him to do it in the first place, but he probably doesn't even realize that it's annoying you.
2007-12-21 08:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by Clint 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to tell him this
bu tdo not forgot that you loved him as he is and yoy was knew this before start dating
2007-12-21 08:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋