We have two beautiful children together and I've had full custody of them for the past 8 months. He's seen them maybe 10 - 12 times and he has a drug addiction so I feel it isn't safe for them to be around him or his girlfriend.
Now he calls me last week bragging of a huge amount of money he is going to get. I ask if I'm getting any and he hesitates. Now I know he's recieved it and is out spending all his cash on whatever. All I'm asking is for some money to help with groceries and utilities since we are both responsible for these children. I know he's not going to give me anything NOW. I'm really upset. I work full time and now have to pay a babysitter for my 5 and 8 year old while I work. I can't stand it and feel like I'm gonna break down and cry. Why is he such a dead beat dad. What do I do to show him that he can't just come when its convenient to him?Should I deny him to come around until I see any money?
2007-12-21 08:30:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Damn thats a sh*tty thing for him to do anytime,much less over the Holiday season! I feel for you "Dazed",I realize you're not looking for pity just answers but it's a hard call being Christmas & all !
May God bless you & your children throughout this Holiday season and there after! I wouldn't just let him come around when conveinent for him Christmas or any other time.
Be strong for you kids!Keep your chin up and pray,everything works out when you have faith!
2007-12-21 08:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry that your in this situation, but you never want to use the children like that. But if he has no legal right to visitations and he is unsafe to be with then I would keep the children from him. About the $ you may or may not ever get any $ from him. Speaking from experience as the child in this case now I am an adult and a mom. I saw my mom struggle and work hard to take care of us and was always upset when my dad would say he was going to get $ and not offer to give any to her. Or say he was going to give her $ and still he would not give her any. Good Luck and Merry Christmas.
2007-12-21 08:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Now mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court and file for child support. You also need to get back support for the last 8 months.
The court will set the visitation rules that he will have to abide by. If there are drugs and parties rampant where he stays, you can even specify "supervised visitation" in the presence of a police officer there at the courthouse!
2007-12-21 08:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't deny access as that could put you a in a sticky legal situation. Instead, speak to a lawyer and get the ******* that way.
Don't let him get away with this - you and the children deserve better. Especially at this time of year.
2007-12-21 08:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i can relate bec i am going thru a big turmoil and been hell and back with my boyfriend who we have 2 beauitful girls together and i have been suppoting him foe 5 yrs now and in this lifetime, he has finally got this job and it been pain in *** or me bec things are never done right. i took care of him longest time and i get no care.
2007-12-21 09:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea!
2007-12-21 08:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by genevievejean 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋