Seems counterintuitive, but if someone is constantly treated well because of looks and then dropped after someone gets to know them (not bc of bad personality, but just bc they were known on a shallow level initially), is this worse than being average looking?
2007-12-21 07:55:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I think that everyone has their own particular stereotype to deal with. Everyone has their own struggle. We as a society judge people based on superficial things and sometimes you'll come out on top and sometimes you won't. It's just the way the cookie crumbles.
2007-12-21 08:10:01 · answer #1 · answered by Really? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good looking people don't usually get treated badly. But unattractive people do. Attractive people get things simply by there looks, as opposed to unattractive people who don't benefit from being unattractive. Say for instance, on this one show, there was a "test" conducted and what they did was put this attractive woman waiting by the bus stop with her books, and when a large group passed by she would drop the books, and a lot of people at one time would come to help her out. Now the same test was conducted and they put an unattractive person in the same bus stop, and when a large group passed by, she would drop her books and only one person would help her. so whatever
2007-12-21 17:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Alex M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes i think it is worse. i have several absolutely stunning friends. i'm very plain. i was the plain friend. now i'm the fat friend. but i've had a happier life (i'm 40) and healthier relationships. the most beautiful has been sought after since we were kids. her boyfriends have included the two that hit her, the one that left her alone in his multi million dollar mansion (he said it was work, surfing and her in that order) and those in her modling circle that passed her around. yes sheallowed it. she learned at a very young age that she was pretty. period. she wanted to be a happy mother and wife. guys used to give me lots of attention at bars and clubs when i was with her. just to get next to her. i had to live off of her. she never understood why i ended up with the good ones. yet another friend.......model, had a big fight with an l.a. dodger shortstop boyfriend. years ago and we had to drive home at 4:am. she flew to a big tennis tournament in new york or new jersey with a different boyfriend and after a big fight he went to the bar to cool off. she woke up alone. he flew back to l.a. and LEFT HER IN THE HOTEL!! she married that guy.
the other gal looked just like paulina porizkova. gorgeous. a bit dippy. alsoa model. she liked to party. she became an alcoholic in her 20's and died in her 30's from liver damage. she'd been living on the streets.
my other girlfriend looks a lot like the alcoholic. she used to use her ID in bars and clubs. she cannot keep a boyfriend and stalks the ones that leave her. her personality is fake (unlike the others). she has a child from a one night stand and a set of twins from a loser that said he had much money and would marry her. he left when the kids came and she's stalked him ever since. her daddy abndoned her as a childand she has always had older boyfriends. i lived with her at 17and one of the guys was in his forties. they had video. she's a case, yes, but she happens to be gorgeous. she has also modeled. gee they all did. many of my plainer friends haven't had these problems, but maybe because they haven't had as many opportunities. no idea? good question. have a star.
2007-12-21 16:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by slkrchck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they do. They have to deal with jealousy from others as well as unwanted attention from members of the opposite sex. Still, it's personality, not looks that determines somebody's popularity. That's why you see unattractive people with lots of friends while somebody who is good looking but isn't friendly doesn't have any.
2007-12-21 16:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by RoVale 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good looking people get treated much better than the rest due to other people wanting to be/be seen with them. Sad, but true.
2007-12-21 17:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being good looking (to one's own culture, which varies from culture to culture) is a social strength, and ought to be used responsibly. I'd hate to think that anyone would feel bad about looking good.
2007-12-21 17:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't get treated badly. Only good looking men/women who are stupid end up miserable.
2007-12-21 19:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't consider myself good looking, but while in highschool, guys liked me and girls did not (aside from a few friends I had). They called me names like ho and sl*t even though I was a virgin (and most of them weren't) because apparently I was "too good looking" for them.... Thanks to the media and the cr@p they feed them.
EDIT - RoVale pretty much summed it up for you.
2007-12-21 16:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Fex 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If they surround themselves with shallow people, yes.
2007-12-21 16:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋