Have you ever had a guy persue you and persue you, to the point of almost being pushy about it...yet still charming...that somehow got you to lower your guard enough that you would find yourself trying to be friends with him, trying to understand him, make an actual effort for him and things like that....and then later have him pull a Dr. Jekyll / Mr. Hide on you and suddenly act like he doesnt know you, and like your effort almost spooks him out...like as if you are some stranger trying to get to know him..like its an out of the blue concept....
Am i the only one to experience something like this?
Why do some guys do this? Whats the reason? What did i do wrong? I dont understand.... =(
And if you happen to be someone who doesnt open up easily...is it wrong to feel almost emotionally violated...to feel hurt by this..."cold shoulder"? Which is an understatement to how it really feels...
2007-12-21 07:54:26 · 8 answers · asked by Jaded 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I am sorry you had to find out that some guys are like that. Some find it a challenge to get a person to open up to them and trust them. They do put a lot of effort into making you believe they are worthy of that trust and when they finally get your trust, the challenge is gone. It kind of reminds me of a vulture looking for prey. It is a violation of your trust and I know it makes it harder to trust the next person who comes along. I also know it hurts a lot... time does lessen that hurt.
You have done nothing wrong. You were caring and wanted to understand him... nothing wrong with that at all. He is the one who did something wrong.
2007-12-21 08:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Alright 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Courtship is a dance, not all the dancers are equally talented, nor do all show the same intent.
What I see is a young man who, upon seeing his goal, lost interest. You have learned more about him than he has about you, so let him go, and this time, you find the one that you want, and start sending him signals, and make it work for the both of you.
It's your natural right and prerogative to initiate a relationship, and when a man tries it, it isn't always for the right reasons.
2007-12-21 16:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by go2seek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow Jaded that is a long question...
Yes, that does happen. Some guys just like "the thrill of the chase". His disinterest now probably has nothing to do with something you did. He just wanted to get your attention and now that he has it... Just don't waste your time on him anymore, and most definitely don't let it hurt you. There are a lot of guys out there that will value you and aren't nearly as much trouble as this guy is.
Sorry you're going through this... don't let it ruin your Holidays though. =)
2007-12-21 16:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by mac 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It has happened to me before and yes, it is normal to feel violated, he has violated the trust that you put in him to let your guard down!! These guys only want what they can't have, once they get it, it doesn't appeal to them anymore!! It is his problem not yours!! You didn't do anything wrong!!
2007-12-21 16:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Ginny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people do this sometimes, but you must still love and befriend that person as though he didn't do that.
Move on to someone else, but let him know that if he ever comes to his senses you're there for him
Best of luck
:)
2007-12-21 16:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by SOS Reborn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from people that causes negative energy, you don't have to keep up with people that has issues like that!
2007-12-22 04:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by 007butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope, i stood my ground and kept saying no. he eventually found someone else to bug =D
2007-12-21 15:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by GOLDENFAIRY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not me
2007-12-21 15:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋