what's better?
let's say that you have a standard for your life partner. you wish he will fulfill your expectations in 100 percent not less, but you have just two choices:
1. a person who can achieve right now just 50 percent, but the number is growing up cause she loves you so much and she wants to improve and learn and never says no
2. a person who fulfills demands in 90 percent but will never develop to 100 cause of opposite attitude
2007-12-21 07:45:17 · 17 answers · asked by Rokaya 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i see that not many of few realized that i'm not chosing anybody. just stuation in my life. i'm the first option for my husband, second never existed but should i let him search for it or not, that's what i wanted to know.
2007-12-21 07:59:00 · update #1
Person 1 is my choice. There is no telling how much they can achieve. The desire to do more is present, and that's what counts. Person 2 does not have this attitude and will possibly drop down from 90 percent to 50 percent or less. People do change, and I'd rather be around one who is intending to change for the better.
2007-12-21 07:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-21 07:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel equally about both of these women? I find that difficult if not impossible to believe. You should feel more for one than the other regardless of their 100% potential. Besides there is no one in this world who can match any standard of 100% forever. We all have flaws and personality differences that will never match up to someone else 100%.
I think you are setting too high a standard and therefore will never be truly happy because she just isn't out there.
A relationship is based not on 100% but on give and take on understanding and forgiveness and most importantly on love. The only person who can give you 100% of your standards is yourself so maybe you need to look in the mirror and see if you love that person.
2007-12-21 07:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends really will the 50% ever get to 100? and will the10% because of the opposite attitude make a big difference? is it a big issue that you disagree on like he wants children i don't or something or can it be overlooked? I think any relationship is about give and take and i don't think you will ever agree 100% with someone, i don't even agree 100% with myself sometimes! You just need to think about what's important to you and which of the two you actually truely love or could love. Never saying no isn't nessisarily the best thing but wanting you to lean and improve is in my opinion 100% commendable and that's what anyone should want for you. Hope this helps :o)
2007-12-21 07:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer to your question is that either is just as good.
Number 1 will never make it to 100 percent, because it is impossible.
Number 2 is as good as it gets, but may never come along.
Usually, most couples do well to satisfy 50 percent of each other's needs. Being willing to learn is actually better than knowing how to satisfy more needs and not showing any further interest in learning.
Take care,
Troy
2007-12-21 08:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will chose the second person because
1) No one can reach 100% of our expectation even by time , so 90 % is ok for now and for later
2) i have to be with a person, a will, I need a person to say No from time to time,,, opposite attitude is needed in a limit,, of course
2007-12-21 07:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by Zoser 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the one that is 50% because unlike the other he has the strive to work harder for you, as the other one will not, and you 50%er may surpass the 90%er in the future. But honestly go with the one that you love.
2007-12-21 07:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by simply sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What planet are you from? On Earth, finding a partner who lives up to 100% of your expectations is impossible. If people living in your world are willing to change themselves to be exactly what you want, it is some crazy system you got going.
2007-12-21 07:52:36 · answer #8 · answered by SkyLights90N 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The one you LOVE! Besides, you should NEVER improve yourself for someone's sake, but for yourself inner growth. Othervise you are living someone else's life and not your own. AND nobody is 100%! And if someone expects you to be 100% of wat they invision as their partner and demand it, RUN! This person will never care for you, but only for their SELFISH self and no matter how hard you'll try, you will never make such a person happy.
2007-12-21 07:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assalam Walekum,
The 1st one is better as we can all learn and grow, instead of the second one in which you rely on the opposite who gives you everything easily. That's why one should think before marrying a rich person.
2007-12-21 07:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋