I'm so sick of this constant deceit. My dad suspects and keeps trying to turn me straight, and I'd rather just have to go live with a friend for a while than put up with any more of this crap.
2007-12-21 07:24:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Actually I'm fairly independant as it is. I go to college, I can get a job pretty easy and I can quite easily stay with friends for a while.
2007-12-21 07:42:09 · update #1
If you feel that you need to do it, than do it.
That's how I felt and you need to act on it...
I couldn't hold back, it just wasn't worth it for me. Whatever the consequence may have been, I didn't care. Luckily, nothing happened, I got a positive response from the people I really needed it from.
But most importantly do what you feel is right, I had it real easy, you may not, and it certainly should be considered. If you're sick of it, then let go. Because they're going to find out anyways, in the end, and you can't change how they will react to it.
If they kick you out, honestly, it's out of your hands, and you did nothing wrong for stepping up about how you feel.
>>ps>One thing I learned after coming out:
Do not be so quick to judge your parents.
When coming out (or with any point in life where you're struggling a little) we often tend to think that worst case scenario will in fact happen.
And, have you considered telling mom. or looking for some other family support? Tell the ones you know you can have on your side first.
2007-12-21 07:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Reality check: you can live with a friend "for a while", but then what?
And according to your profile, you're only 16. What the hell are you going to do with your life at 16 if you get kicked out of your parents' house? Stay in school, focus on getting good grades, and then see if you can attend a college in another city or another state, so that you can live away from your parents for a few years.
There are ways of being discreet without living a lie.
2007-12-21 15:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats really sad that your Dad will kick you even, though I doubght you like hearing that. It probably would be for the best even though their will be very harsh times coming up if you do, I was wondering how old you are though, you do have a job right are you going to school, thoughs things effect my answer I wish you said but yah, you shouldn't live with someone who doesnt accept you. But if you are going to school and getting kick out will obstruck your current path in life it might be better to stay then ruin your future.
Wishing the best of luck!
2007-12-21 15:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to live a lie...
do you have some place to go if you do get kicked out?
what makes you believe that you will be kicked out?
it is hard to assume what the reaction will be from your parents..I always thought that my father would not talk to me ever again...but after I told him it was the first time he told me he loved me...
so even if you feel sure about the results of telling them...you will have to be ready to accept a different anwser...
Your parents love you.... they prolly had a life planned out for you before you were even born..they had expectations and now there whole idea for your life has changed and it may take them a while to understand that all is not as they wished.
be strong...
Hope it helps
Peace and Love
2007-12-21 15:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by scruftastic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If staying in the closet to your family is damaging your emotional well-being and interfering with your studies and potential, then it might be a good idea to just come out. I know, though, that that is easier said than done (from my own personal experience). Of course, you would have to weigh that against the likelihood that you would actually get kicked out (and for how long) and whether a friend(s) would be able to provide long-term shelter for you.
I wish you well.
2007-12-21 15:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by appalachianlimbo 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Only if you think he will really kick ou out, I swear, parents have problems, (i dont have to worry, im never going to be one!) Its like they cant accept their own children for an innoticable differance!
If you have a friend you could go to id do that, but of course its your choice, mabye if your'e gone for a while you dad could learn to auctually appreciate you!
2007-12-21 18:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be over eighteen, so I'd say go for it. Let them come to you. Lots of people have to make it on their own from early on. No one is gonna turn you straight, they'll only succeed in making you unhappy and turning themselves gray and mean before their time.
2007-12-21 17:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough, tough call. I don't know your family or financial circumstances, so I wouldn't even begin to offer an opinion, other than to say consider it carefully and be ready for whatever consequences may occur. Best wishes too :)
2007-12-21 16:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by Clint 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I was outed at 15 and my parents threw me out of the house. It was NOT easy. I would have preferred to wait until I was going to leave for college.
Are you sure you'd get thrown out? Do you have a safe, sane place to go? Don't get yourself into a bad situation if you can at all help it. Good luck with whatever you decide!!!
2007-12-21 15:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by FTW 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
you have to do what you believe is the best thing for you. My only warning is to be sure and to be prepared to face the consequences of it all. But it seems you are well on yrou way to both so why not.
in college at 16? or is your YA info way out of date?
2007-12-21 21:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋