My brother in law and his wife sent everyone in my family, my three daughters and husband, Christmas gifts except for me. I thought it was inappropriate and hurtful to exclude me. This was the first year they had sent gifts. Was this proper? Do they not like me?
2007-12-21 06:31:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
It was not a mistake. My husband confirmed with his brother the amount of gifts that were enclosed. This was the first year they had sent us any gifts.
2007-12-21 06:53:35 · update #1
That is very inappropriate. Your husband should speak to his sibbling that you are just as much part of the family as he and their nieces/nephews.
2007-12-21 06:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Advantage-ME 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure before you react and take it personal, that it was perhaps there, and over looked perhaps the tape stuck on to someone elses present. Check the flap of the box also. Check all the wrapping paper too. If you still don't find it, then I would feel it's safe to assume that they thought they put it in the box and over looked it or it got sent to another relative by accident. I think you will either get another package or a call once they have realized they made a mistake. I am sure it has nothing to do with how they feel about you and you shouldn't take it personally. I would laugh it off and chalk it up to there inexperience with it being their first year. It is hard sometimes to get everything in the right box going to the right person. If they realize it happened, they will say something. They may not ever know, especially if someone else gets it and doesn't realize it's not for them. I would see what happens next year. If the same thing happens then I would ask them what is wrong. In the mean time, don't get upset about it. Life has a way of working things out.
2007-12-21 06:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, consider what they gave your husband. Could it have been a "together gift?" If so, it SHOULD have had your name on it. But I often give one gift to relative couples, because it's just too expensive to buy everyone separate, individual gifts. Maybe they didn't intend it as hurtful, or a "sign" of anything, but were simply buying for their neices/nephews, and threw in something for their "blood brother"....after all, he IS the brother. Maybe it was just not economically feasible to add a gift to the "inlaw." Yet, good etiquette WOULD have been to either do a together gift for the two of you, or add a LITTLE something for you, even if it is a box of candy. Not everyone is savvy to the "right thing to do," though. I would not think this is "against" you unless there are OTHER signs that they are snubbing you.
2007-12-21 06:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure they intended to leave you out? One year I mailed gift cards taped to small boxes of chocolate. When I went to put some things away I found one of the gift cards still in the bag. I was so embarrased but got on the phone Christmas day and tracked down who got the chocolates only.
They got their gift just a little late.
Merry Christmas
2007-12-21 06:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by WACVET75 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give them each a "donation-gift" from you..that is, not necessarily from your kids or your husband..just from you to remind them that you exist. I like the Heifer Project.
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Happy Holidays!!
2007-12-21 06:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by branchcaptain 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I assume this is your husband's brother and his wife....your husband should contact his brother and ask him why this happened. Maybe your gift was accidentally left out of the box...YOU shouldn't worry abut it. If I were your Husband...I'd return all the gifts unopened.(if this was intentional)
2007-12-21 06:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was the gift a personal one to your hubby or usable by you both?If it was only for him...that was rude.You should call and ask why you were over sited at Christmas..You will know then whether or not to ever buy for them....
2007-12-21 07:24:16 · answer #7 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should have included you in the gifts or send you and your husband a present meant for a couple and not an individual.
2007-12-21 06:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would really hurt my feelings and is clearly not proper. It's tacky.
2007-12-21 06:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by red_head 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, here's the answer: the word is spelled "etiquette".
Glad I could help!
I'll take my ten points now, please and thank you! ;)
2007-12-21 07:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by skaizun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋