I'd like to know what others interpret this as. My husband and his ex gf have a court order regarding holidays and I'd like to know what you think this means. I ask because if we need to enforce visitation, I want to make sure we have our facts straight so we don't look like fools. Thanks!
Our order states for holidays : The parties agree to alternate holidays. The mother will have all the holidays in the even years and the father will have all the odd years
How do you interpret this? Thanks for your help!
2007-12-21 06:20:07 · 11 answers · asked by Momto2inFL 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I assumed it meant all odd years are with my husband and all even years are with his ex. But for either parent, this is the most foolish holiday schedule because that child goes without seeing the other parent for holidays for a WHOLE YEAR? That's not very fair to the child is it? I mean, they signed it and they agreed but still....
2007-12-21 06:28:07 · update #1
That's exactly why I asked because I wanted to know how you all read this as to see how a cop would interpret it. The ex has ignored our calls for the past 2 wks and we're supposed to get the child for Christmas through New Years. We live 5 1/2 yrs away so obviously our fear is driving all that way to have no police assistance if the mother decides to refuse visitation. It just sucks! It's not fair to do this to that little girl. We're adults, we'll suck it up, but that's just not fair to her....
So obviously, back to court we go....
2007-12-21 06:41:59 · update #2
I didn't give all facts because you can only fit so much on these things. The reason I asked is because his ex gf is being difficult and we're trying very hard but can do so much from a distance. It appears we'll have to look more into this and start making changes immediately to bring to court. This was all done in mediation, meaning they AGREED on these things. But honestly, I know for a fact that my husband and his ex will be livid to know what it really means for holidays. I mean, she'll like it this coming year for 2008 but in 2009, I promise you she'll flip with not seeing her kid all year for holidays. It is a stupid ruling...unless you live close by. Which also means we'll pay traveling expenses ALL year long for holiday visits and then the following year we'll be paying nada. It just doesn't seem right....
2007-12-21 06:49:49 · update #3
Its a standard visitation schedule and mine reads the exact same way. We dont follow it "generally". Usually we both seem them a half day on Chirstmas.
But yours is typicall of what most people due.
Good luck enforcing it as you need to go to court to do so. that paper means nothing to law enforcement or any other agency you may think will enforce it. Only the judge will enforce it and penilize the offending party. Been there done that....and still doing it...lol
2007-12-21 06:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Slick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it is an even YEAR, example 2008, the mother will have the child for ALL the holidays. In an odd YEAR, like this year and 2009, the child will be with you and your husband.
You would need to determine whether it is only applicable to the Christmas holidays or to ALL holidays (meaning school holidays too). If it includes all school holidays, you need to contest that it be revised, because for a child to adapt to a new situation after a year is too much! The child should be with a different parent EVERY school holiday!!!
Good luck!
2007-12-21 06:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ethan-Mikyle's Mommy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't guess I understand what the question is...it clearly states all holidays are with the same parent, odds to father, even to the mother, pretty hard to mis-interpret what it says.
Is the ex-wife being weird or something? What's the rest of the story here?
I think it's crazy stupid, and totally unfair to the child, but perhaps they couldn't agree and the judge got fed up and made this decision?
2007-12-21 06:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Gliowien R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children spend all the holidays of 2007, 2009, 2011, etc with dad.
They spend holidays of 2008, 2010, 2012, etc with mom.
That would mean whatever regular holiday the families celebrate, e.g. various national holidays, and religious holidays.
If you are talking about Christmas, maybe they could spend Christmas Eve with one and Christmas day with the other. The parent whose year it is would have the choice. It would be the dad's choice this year.
2007-12-21 06:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by hamrrfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this year is an odd year (2007) so it means this year you and your husband gets to have the kids over for Christmas. Usually from 6pm on Christmas eve to 6pm on Christmas day. New Years belongs to the Mother since it is the first holiday of (2008) an even year. Make sense?
2007-12-21 06:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's 2007, which is an odd year. This means that the father gets the holiday with the kids
2007-12-21 06:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by west 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meanning that your husband gets the years that end with the odd numbers (2007 is odd) and that the mother gets the child on the even years 2008 is even)
2007-12-21 06:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so incredibly vague. Anyway, it sounds like the father will have the child for Christmas and New Years Eve and then starting New Years Day, you'll get the child.
2007-12-21 06:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Aiden 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means that their father has them this Christmas since 2007 is an odd year---you will have them next Christmas, 2008 and you will alternate like that from this point on. Yikes, I wouldn't have agreed to that one!
2007-12-21 06:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing vague about it, she gets the child in the even years (06, 08, etc) for all holidays and in the odd years (07, 09, etc) he gets the child for all holidays.
2007-12-21 06:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋