Hi.
I dated my hubbie for a year before we got married which was a year ago.(I'm with him 2 years in total) He was so enthusiastic at first, then after we got married and started to live together, his desire seemed to be decreased.
We used to have a sex once/twice a week after we started to live together, then once in 2 weeks, and now, we don't have a sex unless I ask him to have one. Even I ask him, he would decline 99 %. Last time we had a sex was a month ago. He said he doesn't have a desire itself. We have talked about it but when it comes to talking about sex, he gets really defensive and tell me that he has never given anyone hard time because he can't get a sex, or has any of his g/f in past ever given him a hard time because he doesn't have a sex with her.
I love him but I am exhausted by this frustration. I just want to dump my sex drive than dealing with him being defensive.
Is there any med that would drop one's sex drive? Thank you in advance!
2007-12-21 05:41:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Yes, he is stressed out and be depressed. In addition to that, he will be more stressed and be depressed because he is going to go to a grad school besides his full time job.
My point is, I do understand him being under pressure, ok, so I should try being patient, but how long? he is gonna go to grad school for 6 years to get his master since he can only take 1,2 class a semester to balance a life of working full time.
Again, I understand his situation, but that doesn't mean I can ignore my desire.
He doesn't want to see a doc b/c he thinks it's crazy to see a doc just because he doesn't want a sex as much as I do.
What I mean "i ask him a sex" is seducing him and all, not begging him to have a sex!
2007-12-21 05:58:24 · update #1
Anti Depressant pills drop sex drive. Find out if he is taking any medication....
However, him being defensive may be a whole other issue...he may be defensive towards you because he doesnt know why has lost his sex drive...seeing a counselor might be the next step. You have only been married for 2 years. Giving up so fast isnt worth it.
Good Luck and try to talk to a marriage counselor
2007-12-21 05:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most peoples sex drive drops after they get married especially once the "honey moon" period is over. However, there could be something medically wrong with him, that is also causing a lower sex drive, especially if he is having a hard time getting an erection. So, instead of finding a way to lower your sex drive, I would investigate a little more about what's going on with him.
1. Stress- Can cause it
2. High Blood Pressure- Can cause it.
3. Being Tired
4. Depression
These most leading reasons for men to not be able to get an erection. He is getting defensive because your asking for sex or maybe there is something wrong that he is not a talking to you about it. Back off a little bit about asking FOR SEX and start asking him if there is a problem.
2007-12-21 13:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by be happier own a pitbull 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's letting the stress of life ruin his and yours.
Too bad, sounds like he's missing out on a really good thing.
2007-12-21 13:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Prophet 1102 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of dumping your sex drive, have you considered dumping your husband?
2007-12-21 13:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband might need to talk to a councel or something
2007-12-21 13:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by dddddd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋