Suicidal thoughts are normal...right?

Question

I mean to a certain extent everyone has thought of it without considering it...right? For instance, you are really upset at your spouse, or parents. You imagine shooting or hanging yourself and what the ruckus would be when they found you. Perhaps even leaving a note 'it's all your fault' type thing. This is normal right? Serious question people, don't make fun! I've had these thoughts since I can remember. I've always thought they were normal...everyone has them...right??? Please be honest.

No, I don't think I could ever do it. I am afraid of death. But, the thoughts sometimes consume me...which is what worries me

Answer 1

The truth is everyone has the ability to take their own life whether they want to admit it or not. The choice is always there.
Recognizing that you have the capability to take your own life and choosing not to is equally significant. It is a sign of higher intelligence and cognizance of your existence that separates us from the other creatures on the planet as well as establishing a higher purpose for man and the truth of the existence of higher knowledge beyond that which we physically see or comprehend.
That said, yes it is normal for all people to at one point think about their own life and their own death, it is something each person understands for themselves. Most people reject death in any form in favor of seeking life. Sometimes death is a persistent thought in others, because life has become physically or emotionally too painful to endure. Too many see no other option but death as a solution to their problems.
Those who seek God in their lives seek a solution other than death. Hope in God and faith in God are factors for many who reject suicide as the solution to their problems.
Your thoughts of suicide reflect your own inability to change the situation you are in. I don't know you or what is going on in your life, but I do know that it is very hard to escape or remove yourself from a bad home situation and live entirely on your own while you are a child. I can tell you that death is not the only answer to your problems. It only causes that ruckus for a little while, but you have to remember that peopl get over it and eventually forget about you. All those people you want to affect will only be affected for a short time. Your name will be in the obituaries, a few people will cry at your funeral, then they get rid of all your things and go back to their daily existence. Your mom will be the only one who remembers you after a few years.
Sometimes a better way to heal from pain and suffering is to let it go and forgive those who have offended you. It's so strange to me that no one ever considers forgiveness as an answer to their relationship problems. Why is it so hard to forgive and let go? What is so terrible about forgiveness that you would rather choose self-torture and death over forgiveness? If it is power you seek, there is so much power in forgiveness that people live in hatred, anger, terror, and pain rather than forgive someone. How much power is that?
I think instead of focusing on that big huge monkey on your back in the form of suicidal thoughts, give forgiveness a try and see what happens. Forgive your parents, forgive your friends, forgive those who have offended you, forgive yourself, and ask God's forgiveness and see what happens.
Once upon a time there was a bunch of people who preferred narrowing their perception until they were so jammed into a corner they could no longer move. They were miserable and stuck forever because it never occurred to them that all they had to do was turn around...

Answer 2

It has crossed my mind. For me if I go into a tall office building where you can look down and see the first floor I think "Wow this would be a great place for someone to jump to their death." I always thought that was really weird... but with you sharing this question I know I'm not the only one to think about suicide.

I have never thought about it to the extent that you have. Sounds like you have had some really hard times and please know that it does get better. I know this sounds so cliche, but it's so true, After every storm the sun does shine again. I'm a living testimony. Have belief in God and whatever it is He will see you through. Death is just the easy way out for cowards and selfish people.

On another note... i would never do it cause i love my life and all the challenges there of and would never want to cause so much hurt on my family and friends to ever do such a thing.

Answer 3

no. honestly, to the extent that you are having these thoughts it is not exactly normal. if you've imaged what you would do, and have even thought about what type of note you would leave, that's more than the "normal" person would do. i've contemplated suicide twice as a solution to my problems -- but i didn't have any plan or idea of how i would do it. and each time it freaked me out so bad that i went to see a counselor to talk about it. (this happened in my early 20's, and i'm now in my late 30's.)

now if you honestly don't think you could or would ever go through with it -- that's another thing. it really depends how old you are -- if you're a teenager, this might be something you grow out of. i remember being obsessed with my own mortality, but i grew out of it. but if you're in your early 20's, it might be time to seek some help. you're either still very emotionally immature (which was my case,) or it might be a sign of depression. (i don't mean to be rude or assumptive, i really am trying to be honest and helpful).

good luck.

Answer 4

I think it´s completely normal to think about it at least once in your life. Who hasn´t wondered what would happen if they were dead, what would be different? I´m very curious about it.
I have wondered what it'd feel like many times. I've even decided which method I would use and I don't think I'm an oddity. Well, perhaps I think about suicide a little too much but why not? I think about everything, thoughts can´t hurt me. I don´t want to kill myself and I know I wouldn´t do it unless I had no more alternatives. I think it becomes negative when those thoughts don't let you live normally but I don't think it's your case, so don't worry about it.
I've also thought about it as a way to punish someone, for example, my mother.When I´m really upset, I imagine her looking at my body and crying and I feel released from my rage. This is completely normal!! It doesn´t mean you want to die, it means you want this person to suffer. I´m not proud of this feeling, but I think it´s more common than people admit.

Answer 5

I am now 59. I think I had suicidal thoughts, twice. Once, nothing much was going on and while driving, this strange thought came, " I wonder what it would feel like to drive into that bridge abutment?" Maybe it was random and senseless, but it gave me the sickest feeling that I'd even come up with that. Maybe there are evil things that seek to control and sometimes they penetrate your psyche.
I don't think it is normal to have thoughts like this all the time.
I don't think it is healthy to think about suicide and the method and the scene, whenever you are upset. Perhaps, you see it as a viable way out of conflict. It is not. Maybe, you think you'd be punishing others by taking your life and have them live with guilt. That is evil. Seriously, you have to get rid of your love affair with the idea of killing yourself. Nothing is ever worth that.
C. :)!!

Answer 6

That used to happen to me a lot. I really didn't want to commit suicide. I just didn't feel I had the motivation to keep going. Many persons feel that way, I have learned. You are not alone. I talked to many psychologists and therapists. I did not find help at that time. It wasn't until my mother asked me what I like to do. She then asked me, "when was the last time you did those things?" I couldn't remember the last time I had done them. Take some time to do what you like. It is in doing those things that we begin to see purpose. You do have a great purpose. Start w/ the small things. They are often the most important things in life. You can do anything. Seek a good support group that will help you establish good thoughts about yourself.

Answer 7

Those thoughts are not normal, and in fact somewhat extreme. It is fine to joke about it with friends in a colloquial manner (i.e. that movie was so bad I felt like killing myself) but if you actually think it through that seriously, you may suffer from chronic depression. These may seem like superscillious thoughts now, but if you get to a point where you are taken to a mental/emotional brealing point, you may have an impulse to actually commit suicide. My advice is that you should probably see a doctor. It may not seem serious now, but I can tell by the extent that you have thought these things out that you may eventually bring yourself to your own demise.

Answer 8

I've had suicidal thoughts but never actually thought I'd really do it. I'm not really having them in terms of punishing others though, mostly when I'm sick and tired of my life. I do consider it normal but I cannot tell you if what you are feeling is normal cause I do not know your limits. Do you think you'd ever actually do it?


If you don't think you'd do it then it's Obsessive Compulsive Behaviour (OCD). There's a number of ways to reduce this but try counselling for advice

Answer 9

I think the thoughts are connected to the value of our time, and when we are not using time to gain our needed education than we are more prone to the thoughts of killing time though it is not translated as different than the " I" and needs the division line drawn, through logical argument and conscious clarification. Just say no to wasting time and at the end of the day you have saved it to do that which needs done for you.

Answer 10

I've had suicidal thoughts, but a few years back i had depression.
So, I'm probably not really representative of everyone.

I guess what i've learnt through all of it is that there's always some way to redeem the situation, and you've got to stick with it :)

Hope that helps.