When I feel myself getting close to someone, I tend to push them away.. How should I address this issue
2007-12-21 02:17:58 · 8 answers · asked by Fruitful1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You and me are totally alike. You probably do this out of fear or because you were previously hurt. When you feel this way try to tell yourself that this is a new relationship blooming and the least I can do is give it a try. You probably fear failure or disappointment. You probably dont know how to deal with getting that close to anyone because you are scared of what will happen. Just give it a try and I need to be taking my own advice. Hope this answered your concerns.
2007-12-21 02:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by Joy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Deal with the issues that are causing you to push them away.
2007-12-21 02:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have trust issues, my boo is the same. Hopefully the one you have now or at least have in mind is understanding, set down and talk with him. Explain your feelings and lay some ground rules, if he loves you he'll go along and stand by you till you trust him.
2007-12-22 04:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by J.B. Holiday 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it sounds like you scared of connecting. I have been there...I found a therapist who specialized in relationships and she gave me tasks and obstacles to work on...it helped me so much. And trust me when you finally do connect you are gonna forget how to push away...
2007-12-21 02:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by confused<3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, and don't try too much to empress them!!!! Just watch the things you say around them. Little mis-conceptions can push two people very far apart!!!
2007-12-21 02:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Searching at dusk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks like comittment is your big problem. Are you willing to give a little of yourself to another person. This is something you must answer in order to have a good relationship.
2007-12-21 02:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by 'Old & Cudley' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to be yourself around them and dont let those other feelings get in the way.. if you like or even love someone then go for it..
2007-12-21 02:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by KK 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just let yourself connect emotionally first...not physically...as long as your not connected physically...your not vulnerable...and you always have the upper hand...soon as you make it physical trust me you lose all control as a female ...and your done for...LOL..unless the guy is really someone you can trust and a good person...
2007-12-21 02:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_cool_chick07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋