What's so hideous about women in their natural form?

Question

We go through excrutiating pain to extract our body hair from its follicles: legs, underarms, upper lip, bikini line, arms - you name it, some of us remove hair from it. We pluck our eyebrows into a 'tidier' shape.

We spend precious hours and hours of our life applying make-up just so we can go out in public. We routinely paint ourselves to create lies - illusions making certain things look smaller, bigger, longer, or dissapear completely.

We have girls with straight curling it and girls with curly hair straightening it, and the oddest of all, girls with straight hair straightening it to a poker-straight hold. A haircut isn't just for comfort, it's a statement.

We follow fashion and beauty trends religiously otherwise we're as good as dead as many social standards are concerned.

Yet we accept men as they are, as they've always been, they can wake up, throw on the nearest dirty t-shirt, and go out into the world - and women will still be attracted to them.

Men claim to like women, but do they really? Do they really like WOMEN, or do they like the hairless, intricately painted, all-glammed-up-like-a-Christmas-present creatures that we, for some odd reason, have become?

The funniest thing of all is over time we've managed to kid ourselves that we actually ENJOY doing these things, it's common sense, we're not doing to impress anyone - we don't notice that all this grooming is actually really odd when you look at it.

Answer 1

Because unfortunately, it's a man's world and always will be.

I think it would be neat if all women were to go on strike and let themselves go (not in an unhealthy way, but like not shaving, not plucking, not doing their hair, not wearing makeup, etc. etc.) Then after a while, this would be the 'in' thing to do and we all would be happy.

Answer 2

Actually there has been more then one survey on that which say women actually dress and get themselves more made up more to impress other women then men. The shaving arms and legs thin is a cultural thing and varies by countries-in Europe it is much less common the the U.S. If men expect females to do all that where did they get the idea it should be done unless a woman did it and it did attract attention so other women started doing it. It is not all the males fault and for much of this you have to look in the mirror and see a major cause. Can it be changed-probably but not quickly because women have convinced me that what we have now is the definition of beauty. Most fashion statements are by women, for women and to impress other women that you are prettier then they are.

Answer 3

I agree with almost everything you just said. I am almost 40, and now I only wear makeup when I feel like it. I stopped plucking my eyebrows 8 years ago, and I only shave in summertime unless I have a boyfriend. I still get attention, but not always the kind I want. But the point is, I no longer live my life on someone else's terms. So it goes.

Answer 4

I agree with you that most women are like that. I'm not though. I never wear make-up or worry about the latest trends. I do have curly hair and I was straitening it for a while simple to help manage it better.

I really don't care what other think of me either. Someday a man will come around and love me for my true beauty and I know it'll be worth waiting for.

Answer 5

i don't agree that women kid themselves into liking it over time, because when you get positive responses from doing something you will come to like that.

i feel like you don't think grooming at all should be acceptable; i cant tell where you would draw the line (at what point is it unhealthy, and then are you considering mental health?).

i think there are women/men who naturally fit you model of our skewed vision of an ideal woman.

but, i do see your point. as a male i get disgusted with how much people hate their bodies. fake eyelashes are somehow acceptable, and they are ridiculous! plastic surgery is a sick thing lately.i dont know if this is trivial and we should both care much less about it, or is it as serious as it seems?

Answer 6

Stop and think for just one minute...every culture has what it considers beauty. In the western culture it shaving and primping whereas in other culture its elongating your neck or binding your feet so that they remain small. Its a part of our culture, now if you feel as if that is not the life for you then don't do it. One of the benefits of our culture is that we have a choice, if you don't feel like shaving you don't have to if you don't feel like waxing and putting on makeup then you don't have to. Now I'm going to go as far as to even disagree with the statement that it a man world and we do it because of men. Hecks naw!!! Most of my ex's hate that I wear makeup and am a complete girly girl, they rather I don't straighten my curly hair and that I walk around makeup free. I do it all for me, through no brainwashing, some days I'm in full girly gear other days I'm not its my choice. Make the choice yours.

Answer 7

I think women wear to much makeup as a rule and I actually think a woman who wears little to no makeup are really much better looking. I myself do not like to see a woman with a hairy face that just turns my tummy. Other than that to be very honest if I had a girlfriend that didn't want to shave under her arms or shave or clip her pubic area that really would not bother me. I mean it is natural, yet I don't like hairy legs. I find them very unattractive. So as you see I agree with part of what you have to say but not all. I mean if that's how you want it why do men and women have to go to the gym and spend all that time trying to get the perfect body? The reason is because it is what the other sex finds attractive. I agree that women are under a lot of pressure to "clean up" and look good, yet that's not all bad. Same with men. I think women should be a little more natural in how they look and in reality I think women who are, are much better looking than the ones who pluck and wax themselves to death. Also women wear way to much makeup. I mean most women today if you were to see them without any makeup you would have no idea who they were! Women have brought this on themselves more so than not. If there is an actress or model that a lot of guys think is pretty then for some reason all the other girls think they need to look like her as much as they can. So they go and do all of this stuff to themselves to try and "help their looks". The truth is most of these women don't need any help on how they look! Yet it seems like no woman is ever happy with her looks no matter what we (men) say about her. I have known many women who looked beautiful, yet in order to try and appeal to more men they go and change this and that in how they look. Then to tell ya the truth most of them actually look worse, not better. I think a woman's natural form is beautiful and very sexy. Yet in order to try and look like some other woman they think is beautiful they go and change things about themselves. So I have to say it's usually women who are to blame for what all they have to go through now.

Answer 8

I beg to differ... Ok, the hair removal part is ok since hairy girls dont look very feminine... I think by being natural, a girl isnt disliked but goes unnoticed.... Grooming is important for first impressions and the way a girl grooms herself says a lot bout her personality... Presenting oneself well is very important but its upto us to steer clear of ppl who like u only for ur external appearance... We all want to be with nice looking ppl but when the bond between ppl becomes stronger, we love them even the way they look at 4.00 am lol... but for initial relationships, impressing ppl is a must... Cheers!!!

Answer 9

I don't shave my legs or armpits or anywhere else, so why should a woman?
I believe that we all should be ourselves. That way, people either like or don't like us for ourselves, not what we appear to be.

Answer 10

yes its true... but if you find a good man... he will still think you are sexy in your pj's, a ponytail, and a washed face and even a little stubble.... I hope you can find that man... My husband loves me for the REAL woman that I am. :)