I've gone on a few first and second dates but rarely go beyond that. Part of the reason is because I start liking the girl and I start to overanalyze or overthink situations between her and I. That's when I let my thoughts snowball and get nervous. However, when it comes to a girl I'm not interested in, I'm very much relaxed and myself and that girl ends up being attracted to me but I'm not interested in her.
I would like some advice or tricks on how to mix both scenarios and be relaxed and myself around a girl that I like.
Thank you for your input.
2007-12-21 01:47:52 · 11 answers · asked by someguy 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Congratulations on having the common sense and the courage to have a dating life. Many men are so paralyzed when it comes to letting women know they are interested that their dating life is so far from its potential. I think the key is to let go of your expectations, look beyond her beauty, and try to figure out if she would make you happy or not. I can remember a few beautiful women I was interested in but honestly could not say that they could make me happy in a relationship. In those situations it was simply time for me to move on. Also, keep in mind that it is somewhat of a numbers game and that it is perfectly ok if things don't work out between you and the girl sitting across from you. Sometimes you have to turn over many stones before you find the treasure you are looking for. Also, take an inventory of what you have to offer women and what you could do to improve yourself. The more you have to offer a woman the easier it is for her to decide to stick with you. I think, with these things in mind, you should be on a path to higher confidence.
2007-12-21 02:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Nikolas M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't think about it. Approach a date with someone you like the same way you would someone you aren't sure about. I know, it's easier said than done, but you already know why it is hard for you - you overanalyze. So don't let yourself - when you catch yourself thinking too much about it (not to be confused with thinking a lot about her) - just do something else or even give her a call. And if you still have some issues with it, maybe on your next date with her you lay it on the table. Share your insecurities, you might be surprised to find that she probably has them too. If you are open with her she is more likely to be open with you. And maybe by sharing them they will start to fade.
Something to remember though is that you need to approach it sensitively. Don't come out and say "I'm unsure about this" - instead say something like "I don't think I'll ever get used to this dating thing, it's so easy to overthink every word and action" and maybe ask her is she ever feels that way.
2007-12-21 09:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by JennyRose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First relax.
In conversations give feedback, but dont dwell on an answer...
In conversations, in some periods be more quiet then other times of the conversation..not only will you be able to mentally sit back and think (and calm down being about nervous) but you will be able to observe your date...because if you stop talking eventually the other person will feel more compelled to speak. which is good.
2007-12-21 09:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by Lilo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a chick I find it better if a guy just acts like himself I yhate fake people and try not to tell outragouse stories even if they are true chances are she wont belive you until she gets to kow you... dont act all macho either. If you start feeling nervous tell her.... It may sound but more likely shes feeling the same way and she will like you more if your honest
2007-12-21 09:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol. plz dont hump her! i know it may be hard but try to relax and think, ur jst friends hanging out. try to get to know her first and become a good FRIEND b4 boyfriend. take it slow. jst try not to get stuck in the friend zone. lol. it happens. good luck!
2007-12-21 10:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by LA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Shorty
2007-12-21 09:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look for real answers in this catagory
2007-12-21 09:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by coachotis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just humpp herrr and make her screaaammm lol but d what feels right
2007-12-21 09:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by xKelseyx WOOT WOOT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is normal, just don't fight it, work it out.
2007-12-21 09:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hump her....hehehehe....thats funny shorty.
2007-12-21 09:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋