I have 2 children (boy 8 and girl 12). I am supposed to have my (and my wife's) holiday time from after school today until 8 pm on Christmas eve. Their mom (my ex) has sent me a letter self suspending the kids' visitation with us until a court date for a hearing of what I beleve are issues that could be settled outside of court. I called her last evening to see when I could pick up the kids and she stated that she suspended my visitation until the hearing. She also denied us parenting time 2 weekends ago. I filed a denial of parenting time paperwork over it. My attorney (whom i can not get ahold of today) stated to file paperwork every time this happens. I will do that.
My question is...should I make the 75 minute trip to their house to show the courts that I made an attempt to get them for our time? Should I not attempt the trip and just write it down in the denial of parenting time complaint?
The Michigan FOC is aware of her and not putting up with what she is trying to pull.
2007-12-21 01:34:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since I called and talked to her last evening, she will probably leave home and not be there if I go. She has a history of doing that in the past
2007-12-21 01:45:14 · update #1
She doesn't have the right to cancel your visitation without a court order. I would make an attempt, & notify the police when you get there to make documentation that she refused you visitation. I hate "Mothers" who use there children as tools. Children should be loved & cherished by both parents.
2007-12-21 02:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has already notified you "offically" withOUT a hearing then I would not waste the trip. You have it on record. Record this was your weekend and you lost that time with your kids. Then when you do goto court you can present to the judge she denied you visiation on X,Y,Z dates. The courts dont take kindley to custodial parents who deny visits without a hearing and having no just cause for it. You will find she is in some trouble.
2007-12-21 02:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by Slick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give her a heads up, just go and get the children. I am concerned to her reasons why she is denying visitations. She cannot suspend unless its already court ordered.
You may need to take your papers (divorce) and get the sheriffs department to run with you to get the children. It will be a scene, but maybe she will stop her crap.
2007-12-21 01:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by blueeyes_unever_4get 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex can not suspended visitations, go and try and pick up your kids if she will not let you have them don't blow up or do something that would embarrass you and your kid, it just call the sheriff department (make sure you have your divorce papers) they may talk to her. if she still will not let you have your kids then she is in contempt of court. you yourself can take her back to court for contempt. you could have and can still take her for what happened two weeks ago. this way if you call the cops you can also have that cop appear in court on your behalf. trust me my daughter had to take her ex to court for contempt. he had a lawyer she did not and she cross examined him (it was fun to watch LOL)... but also do your kids a favor and don't put them in the middle of this mess like your ex is doing... i wish you the best of luck.
2007-12-21 01:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by yak4the8car 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st question, even nonetheless you on no account met her did you already know approximately her? If no longer then it replaced into completely in undesirable flavor, in case you knew approximately her than except he promised it would in basic terms be the three of you or something, you had to have had some expectation that she may be alongside for the journey. on the grounds that he did no longer inform you 2 that she may be there perhaps he did no longer tell her the two. as far as no longer chatting with you and your sister, some people who have not got infants of their very own have a complicated time bearing directly to infants. Who knows in time you will possibly be able to ok like her.
2016-12-18 06:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by lacue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This comes under the heading of something you should have thought about before the divorce. Kids don't like the upheaval back and forth thing, especially not conflicts at the holidays.
If you left, this is part of what you get. If she left you and was at fault from the get go, you should have tried harder to get primary custody yourself.
Let it go and just have some more kids with the new wife or replace your kids with hers (your step-kids) and be like most men. As long as you make time to throw enough money at your kids long distance and part time, it will all be just fine and dandy (at least in your mind).
OR, you can waste your money throwing it at attorneys instead and the results will not be much different. Your choice.
2007-12-21 01:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would attempt, and at least take them their presents and such... That way they can see Dad and you have an attempt to show that she not only said you can't have your kids, when you SHOULD get them, but that she also denied you when you went to go get them. Good luck to you, and just remember, she'll get whats coming to her!
2007-12-21 01:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll look better on you if you go and try to get them. She's being nasty, and your lawyer is giving you good advice.
2007-12-21 01:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by Bridget S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋