Has the way you were brought up effected you now?

Question

What effects has good parenting had on you?
What effects has bad parenting had?

Answer 1

Oh yes - my parents gave me a good grounding and I still rely on what they taught me.

Answer 2

The answer is absolutely! However, I don't know if the difference between good and bad parenting is very clear. Of course, physical child abuse is without a doubt bad parenting. But most parents do have the right intentions bringing up their kids - it is the outcome that sometimes is not what they wanted. For example, an example of bad parenting could be spanking your child to discipline them. I was spanked sometimes, and I think it had a bad affect on me then. But from the parent's point of view, they are trying to teach the child how to behave. Usually, the outcome is the opposite. The child could become rebelious and they can become dependent on their parent to know what is the right behavior. One could also say that the bext example of bad parenting is to be ignorant of things that go on in a child's life. This is possible, but it could have a positive affect of the child feeling that he/she has earned the parents trust/approval. In my case, my Mom was ignorant of a lot of the things I did. She gave me a lot of independence, and really trusted me to do the right thing without her guidance (of course, after I was a certain age). She always let me know that she was proud of me. When I did do something wrong, I did not need disciplining - I was ashamed that I let her down. There is no real difference between good and bad parenting. A parent needs to adapt their relationship with their child to the most appropriate for him/her. There is no universal good or bad way of parenting. This is why it is so hard to be a parent - you are trying to shape an independent human being, but at the same time, you have to let them shape on their own with their own private experiences. The manner in which a parent can create a good balance of both determines how the child will be affected as he/she is brought up.

Answer 3

What a great question!

I must admit that I'm very lucky to be born in a good-parenting family here. All is moderate, normal, and happy.

But bad stuff? There is. Asians here says "Don't talk to strangers", that results us into being so shrinked in. "Be open and communicate" is what westerners bring their children up with, making them more developed emotionally. That's why you'll find Asian styled children are more...reserved. That should sum this up.

In China however, I heard that stress is so immense among the children (in education) that some wish to be blinded than go to school. Not laziness, but the parents forcing their children to learn in a wrong and harsh way. It's wanting the results but not the process. China's parents, not all, of course, they just judge the child by their report card.

Answer 4

i have had little good parenting, honestly Im not trying to sound all emo on you, but ghood parenting is a hard thing to find.

I've searched and looked at my friends who grew up in a near perfect household and i've realied that most mothers and fathers actually love and care about eachother. It seems to me that the longer the relationship BEFORE marrige, is the better the relationship between children and parents. I've noticed this with alot of my friends families. The parents that beat their kids, seem to have a short relationship before marrige.

and the effects of it are great. Good parenting from my friends lead one of them to be extremly over hyper, happy constantly ,and dependant. Hes a very open kid, and he used to be my best friend. However negitive quatlities that come from good parenting are dependancy, if they spoil their child they become dependant on that, and they want nothing more but the goods or actions that their family is giving them.

Bad parenting leads to self abusive children. It really does, and i would go more in depth to how some families effect the cdhild negitivly but my 4th period bell is ringing.

I hope i helped a little....

- brittany

Answer 5

It wasn't the parenting that effected me. It was the things that occured during that time frame that affected me.

Sometimes what children live in has alot more effect than the way they were disiplined.

Ern** Never be ashamed of what you can't, or had no control over, be proud of the way you got through it and who you became from it. There is no shame in giving up to much. Thats often how the rest of us learn it isn't ok.........and become aware of a problem that very much exist.

Answer 6

Hmm interesting question.
When we are young we learn how to react and deal with certain situations by watching how our parents deal with them.
My parents never got on and had horrendous rows very frequently. I have quite a temper and feel that i have it imprinted in me to react angrily to certain situations that other people wouldn't. Anger is the way i tend to convey emotion.

My parents were not very tactile, and henceforth neither am i - not a touchy feely person at all.

Good points are that i can read people very well, due to having to 'walk on eggshells' alot when i was a kid.
I am also an empathetic person, i attribute this to seeing my mum upset so much of the time.

Having said all that, i also believe that a lot of personality traits are in our genes, and not necessarily caused by the way we are brought up.

Answer 7

The biggest effect bad parenting had on me, disregarding the negatives, is the sympathy I have for kids with bad parents. I do all I can to encourage them, boost their confidence and convince them there is someone around they can talk to and trust. Giving too much away already but couldn't resist replying to your question.

Answer 8

Your upbringing is always going to be part of who you are.
I was luckier than my sisters as I don't even remember living with my abusive father. My grandparents & uncle + mum were the earliest influence then my wonderful step-dad!
I was brought up to be independent but considerate to others. Good manners were taught by example and because my Mum was disabled we were taught never to judge people from their appearances.
I think my Mum's disability had a large impact on our characters, both my sisters are nurses and I'm a care-worker, and animals were a very large part of our lives so care comes naturally to us!

Thanks for the question, it has reminded me how incredibly fortunate I have been to have a childhood surrounded by people who loved me!

Answer 9

Yes it has good parenting as made sure that I do what is best for my children and bad parenting is I will make sure I do not make the same mistake my parents did with me.

Answer 10

Completely