Have you ever experienced losing someone close?

Question

sorry for the loss if you have

what do you think is the best way to deal with it

Answer 1

besides losing my parents and my husbands parents, all within a span of 2 years, I have lost my 2 best friends, My best girlfriend died when we were 24 years old. That was hard to take, who is ready to lose a friend at that age, we are just beginning our lives, then few years ago I lost one of my dearest friends, also to cancer; This was extremely hard on me as I had dated him on and off for about 10 years, and even though we were going through a friend phase at the
momentum we would have remained friends forever. Live has nerve been the same without him,
thank you got you best wishes.
As far as dealing with the with i grief, I truly think that dealing with it in the most use useful way is go to a therapist, and have a neutral person to air out your feelings. they aren't going to get tired of listening to you and try to change your way of think. Their job is to listen, not to judge.'
however, not everyone is comfoprtabe with a trip to a shrink and that is when you look toward your best friens and let iy all out. That's wHat truly good friends do without any quuesgions

Answer 2

I have lost many people who is close to me my grandmother and my uncles. I believe in order to deal with a loss it takes time healing is a process that comes naturally and it's not hard. I would always think about the good days and look at pictures sometimes i still cry but i know that they are at a better place and that my love ones still comes around me.

Answer 3

Yes, my Dad had recently been killed by a car while riding the Harley on his way home from work. I am dealing with it ok. I always think of him in the way that he is now the ultimate influence where if I need help I talk to him like christians do with god. I just think of myself and the things I gotta do. I continue what I have been doing all along from even before he died. What you were is what you still are and I am not going to allow the sadness over him change me in any way. I know he's proud of me so far. His wife, my Mom, on the other hand is taking it rather bad. Her way of coping with his death is to go backwards in time when she was single before married to Dad. She gets drunk a lot and got a boyfriend who is introducing her to marijuana. It disturbs me. That is not how to deal with it. I am trying to talk to her but she's always too busy with PK, her boyfriend.

Answer 4

Incident: My friend (19 years old) was walking on the side of the road at about 9:00 PM when a drunk driver hit her. She was walking out to meet her fiance who she hadn't seen in a month (he was out of town for work.) About 50 ft from him she was hit. The truck ended up between them and then sped off. He ran and grabbed her. He had to carry her for a mile. She bled to death in the ambulance on the way to the hospital.

I did the worst thing. I freaked out, didn't show up for the funeral and tried to hold it in.

The Result: a year later I had a mental breakdown. I blame myself everyday for the fact that I didn't show up to that funeral. It eats me up inside.

And boy did I cry. It is hard to forget and it is definitely healthy. She had a big art scholarship to the Art Institute of Seattle, and she could have gone anywhere in life. The best thing that worked for me was to think of her in a better place. I believe people come back in another life and I do think my friend will have a good one.

I do not talk about her with anyone and I know one day I should get my feelings out of me.
I wrote her a song and when nobody is around I sing and play it on guitar. The song is called "Silver Silk"

She was very fair skinned/blonde, an artist

"Wrapped up in Lace drawn by a crayon lay a girl in silver her hair worn down. It's not by her face, it's not by her mouth her eyes burn the page drawn by a girl.

So some of the lyrics go like that but I don't really want to post all of them.


The song has helped me a lot and sometimes to feel better and to get the cry out I play and sing it.

Answer 5

During my time in the army lost many close friends but have lost both parents and nothing can compare to losing a family member. Everyone copes in different ways it is nearly 4 years now it gets easier of course they say time is a great healer and I think that is true. Thank you for your kind words

Answer 6

I am sorry if you have lost someone close. It hurts. My prayers are with you.

I lost my daughter when she was 14 years old. I have lost my parents as well. I have faith that keeps me going. It is an individual thing how people deal with it. For me, I prayed and God gave me the peace that passeth all understanding. I cry off and on still today missing my daughter but I remember that she is not in pain, not suffering, no tears in heaven, she is playing with the angels and she is not alone, she is with others who went before her and after as well.

the biggest thing is to allow oneself to grieve. Find someone who doesn't mind listening over and over, who does not get upset about talking about your loss.

Cry when you feel like crying. Laugh when you feel like laughing. Just allow yourself to be where you are at, unless you cant get past the grief. In that case go see a therapist if you have no one to help you through this difficult time.

Answer 7

Yes, we lost a very wonderful 21 yr old cousin to me but also a big sister to 2 wonderful cousins and the hardest part she was the 1st born child to my 1st cousin....She battled cancer for the last 8 months of her life & peacefully drifted away..../;We miss her so much and the holidays just make it SO worse---she is always remembered & never forgotten we get by with keeping her spirit alive her passion to live as a survior & die as one as well.....It's been 1 year & 7 months

Answer 8

Yes. This year, I have had 5 close relatives or dear friends pass. To me, it was quite difficult to handle it. But, I talked about my grief with others that are close to me. I would try to focus on the good memories, and eventually, I was able to accept that my losses were at peace ( 3 of my losses was due to cancer). I believe that I now have more angels watching over me. Thanks for the condolences.

Answer 9

My dad and my great aunt within a year of each other and both suddenly. Make sure you have family and friends around you to help deal with the loss, and time always helps.

Answer 10

OMGosh, Yes, who hasn't. Thanks for the sympathy.

I lost my mother when I was 20 (she was 38). I had a lot of guilt over the way I acted. Took me a long time to get over that.

My 21 yo son was shot and killed 9 years ago. That was very HARD to handle. I turned everything over to God. I knew I couldn't handle it. I wrote a lot of poetry, and an occasional letter to him. Sometimes, I'd go to the cemetery and talk to him, because that's where the tangible part of him was.

I talked to this one lady who's daughter had been murdered, and her advice was, do whatever you feel you have to do to get through it. In other words, if I felt the urge to break all my dishes, GO FOR IT! I did have that urge, but the practical side of me intervened knowing I'd have to clean the mess up, then buy more dishes. ;)