At work, I have had to work closely with one particular staff member because I'm training him up, which has been great because I really,really like him. He's hard working & very friendly. I have always noticed that he seems very nervous all the time and I have just discovered why. His friend has told me he has a huge crush on me. This isn't new to me because I have had a lot of staff members with crushes on me. My operations manager told me it is to be expected because staff members often develope crushes on their bosses. The trouble is, every time this happens, they end up leaving when I turn them down. I want to break this cycle because as I said, I really like him (but not like that) & he is very hard working & gets along with everyone.
2007-12-20 23:03:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
My experience as a man has thought me to wear inch thick skin when I go having crushes my dear. If you like him (but just not 'that way') tell him you like him (but just not 'that way')
And when you are at it, do not sound uncertain about what you mean. You don't need to have to be telling a guy the same thing every day. That gets boring and it creates more harm than one instant slap in the face. If you are uncertain of what you feel for him, try going out with him...have lunch or something. The fact that he is nervous tells me that he is a gentleman - a real nice person who wants to be 'correct' in his behavior. His crush comes with that degree of respect. Wow! Nice and romantic...Anyway, I answered your question - Peace!
2007-12-21 01:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by highthoughts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let this fellow off gently before he gets to the point of asking you out and being rejected. Perhaps a large framed photo of your boyfriend on your desk will give the message that you are not available. Or you can casually chat with one of the other gals in the office about how you would never date anyone at work because it would cause all sorts of problems.
Once they've been rejected, it's too late - they are embarrassed or humiliated and leave to save face. Good luck!
2007-12-21 08:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not think, it would be too much of problem, as long as you keep it strictly Business. Maybe, you can let it be known, that you are already involved with someone else. That you really are not interested in dating anyone on the job. That is a policy, that you choose to have.
2007-12-20 23:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by That one 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If youre single, let him take you out for lunch one workbreak.
No harm in seeing what the guy is like.
2007-12-20 23:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by stepheneuro 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're his boss, tell him you don't think it's appropriate to date. Tell him you don't want to jeopardize your career.
2007-12-21 01:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by oscarthegrouch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date but don't make any commitments
2007-12-20 23:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by vintagemale1951 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋