and if so, how do you deal with it. leaving the relationship is not a option rite now.
2007-12-20 21:00:35 · 9 answers · asked by ms attitude 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I once had this boyfriend and thought I could help him to change. I was young and ignorant. My ignorance did not turn to bliss, it turned into an abusive marriage that I struggled to hide and repair for years. Finally, with little self respect left, little confidence, and completely broken, financially, mentally, and physically beat up and worn down I ended it. Trust me...this will only get worse and nothing you can do will change his possessive ways. These manners are red flags. Talk to friends or family and cut your losses now, or I promise they will be far worse later. And this type of relationship is not healthy environment to raise a child in. My daughter can attest to this, as I did not leave until she was 5 and unfortunately she remembers how hard life was.
2007-12-20 21:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by NinjenWV 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must assert yourself. If leaving isn't an option (is he the same as the month old baby's daddy?) then until it is do your best to maintain other (not romantic) relationships. Don't become isolated from family and friends. Keep in mind that you may be overwhelmed right now, and not able to see all of the choices you may have, but other people who care about you might have a solution. Good luck.
2007-12-20 21:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by pablasmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many men and women are "controllers" and they want things done their way. This is a very difficult part of a relationship and if the controlling is overwhelming then you have one of two choices. You keep quiet and learn how to accept the control or you decide one day that you cannot bear it any longer and you decide to leave. At times leaving (although it seems to be VERY difficult) is the only sane way to proceed. A controlling person can ruin another's life if the person allows it.
2007-12-20 21:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid that leaving the relationship is the only option you have in order to keep your sanity. Your life is your own, and by staying in a relationship you're not happy with and wears you down, you are ALLOWING yourself to be controlled. Get out now.
2007-12-20 21:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. A one sided relationship is not healthy. Get out. Run away fast. You don't need that. You need a lover and a friend. Not a drill sergeant. You need to work as a team. A relationship should never be one sided.
2007-12-20 21:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by snowflake311 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. there is no real way to deal with it just try and give urself some time alone. like when he goes to work try to make the most of it. when he comes back u will feel refreshed. Just try to hang in there if you cant leave right now and be strong
2007-12-20 21:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by JellyBelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a relationship like that at one point. it got really scary, u feel like you're trapped and can't do anything. the only way i got out of it is with time. we spent 2 years together and the love died out. u need to figure out a way to leave NOW. put up a restraining order, threaten him with the cops. good luck
2007-12-20 21:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving the relationship is ALWAYS an option. Have more self-worth than that, because honey, you deserve waaay better.
2007-12-20 21:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by *Meg* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i tell him im going to do what i like because thats who i am and if he dosnt like it he knows where the door is
2007-12-20 21:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋