It just seems as if lately, my boyfriend and I have been arguing about nothing. He seems to go out more and more every week. When I first met him, he only goes out once a week with his guy friend. That turns into 2 or 3 nights now. Sunday is usually our day and now he wants to spend that with his friends too. We argue about where to go or what to eat.
He's into the clubbing and bar scene and I'm into the dinner and movie thing. He finds my hobbies boring and I cannot relate to his.
My question is: Can this work out in the long run or am I setting myself up for more arguing?
2007-12-20 19:48:07 · 10 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm just torn between whether I should make it work or go off on my own way
2007-12-20 19:49:44 · update #1
For what it's worth, if I had a girlfriend who I cared about, I'd be more interested in spending time with her than hanging out with friends so much. His cutting back on time with you to spend more time with his friends is not good. You should find someone you're more compatible with.
2007-12-20 19:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Spartacus! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think your possessive like the first guy said at all I think you sound reasonable. I mean you all are in love or should be and you should want to be together. I think it might be kinda hard to work out since your more like me, by that I mean you like the idea of dinner and a movie or dinner and renting a movie and staying in together. He enjoys going out to clubs and drinking and spending time with his friends. This is why when I begin to date a woman I see what they like and what they are into. I don't want a woman who wants to go out every night and party. I enjoy staying in and spending time together and not in a club. Yeah this could work out but both of you will have to be willing to give in some. You will have to reach a happy medium between going out and staying in. That could be hard and unless he is willing to work on it, any effort on your part is useless. Talk with him and see how he feels about it and you. Now don't let him BS you just so he gets to keep you. Hey some guys do that they know the relationship is not great but they enjoy having hot girlfriend and will say and do anything for a little while just to keep them. This is usually done for ego purposes as well as,.....well, sex. If he is willing to work with you and he should be if he really loves you, you all can get through this. The fact that you all seem to argue over silly things is not good at all. I dated a woman who did the same thing and she never stopped so I ended up breaking up with her. I don't think being with someone you argue a lot with is good for either person. If the things you all argue over are silly or really not that important then I say go on and get out. Yeah, you will be sad a little while and it's aggravating but it's better than being unhappy and unappreciated. The truth is only you know how strong your relationship is and only you know how much he will be willing to work to make this last. If he will not give in some for your happiness then I would say get out. There are to many wonderful, nice, loving men who are more like you and would really love to have such a sweet, fun, and beautiful woman to spend their life with. Good luck. =)
2007-12-21 14:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like when you first met, you both took an unreasonable amount of energy trying to please each other, even if what you were doing together wasn't your "thing".
Now, it's getting old. This isn't who you are and it isn't who he is. He sacrificed who he was and wanted to do to be with you and so did you. But the sacrificing is getting tougher and you and him aren't sure that being into this relationship is worth all that much sacrifice. You're becoming more demanding as he becomes more distant and not talking to you. You are frustrated and he is just out there doing what he does best, playing with his friends and maybe playing with someone's else heart.
Sit down with him and tell him so. You will gain peace and his respect and he will gain his freedom.
Stay friends. A good friend is better than a relationship gone bad.
2007-12-21 03:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave and be free to find your true love your soal mate because the one your with is not the one for you, this is what happens after a while of being with someone and you no longer are in love with each other, dont waste any more time arguing or ect, make a clean break and start fresh
2007-12-21 04:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by treatau 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well chance are it willn't work because you are so diffend.If you want you can talk me more on messagers about this rfrandy2007@yahoo.com and rfrandy2007@hotmail.com and yea im into a mixturer of both of them.I think he miss his single life and thats why he keep hanging out with his guy friends and not you.You also need to tell him you want him spend some time with you.
2007-12-21 03:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by rfrandy2007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your being selfish and not listing all the details. doesnt your BF work long hours.... when you met your "match" you accepted him 4 who he was and now your trying to c'convert him. guys dont like that............ make a list of all the things he has sacrificed 4 you
2007-12-25 00:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
happiness should be instant , why do people try and try to fix something before they reolize its a big waist of time and energy. Waisted emotion. better off just gettitng a new one.
2007-12-21 04:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by gramachamp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life's too short for regrets. Just decide and don't look back. I think you already have your answer; you're just looking for assurance.
2007-12-21 03:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by 1 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it's not working for you, I've got two words for you: Move on.
2007-12-21 03:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by Raquel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It won't work because you are possessive
2007-12-21 03:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋