I met this guy online..and we've known each other for like more than a year now. It's almost as if we're crazy about each other, we fight a lot but we always get back together and it's kinda like no matter how hard we try to get away from each other, we can't. I always try to end it but I always end up missing him, almost as if i can't live without him. I don't even know if i want to get away.
But the thing is I haven't said any of this to my besfriend. I feel hella bad about it, cuz she tells me all there is to know about her love life...and I can tell her everything about mine too ( like crushes, this n that) except for HIM. Like I feel so stupid about it in the first place that we met online. He lives far away so it's not like we can jus meet up either. So i duno wat to do, I almost feel like im loosing a connection from my best friend cuz Im keeping this from her but at the same time, I think it's so stupid..i don't see the point of telling her. What do you guys think i should?
2007-12-20 19:02:09 · 14 answers · asked by Ash C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, tell your best friend.
Then get off the internet and go meet some guys close by.
Then you can tell your best friend about guys you actually met.
2007-12-20 19:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by whyme 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same situation. I've know this guy "online" for about 8 years. Lately, we talk every day and he says he loves me (even though we have not met in person) and would like for us to get married. We also fight, and I tell him we should just stop talking, but the next day he or I end up calling each other. My friends know about him as my online buddy, but I don't want to tell them that it's kinda more serious. The reason I don't do it is because I believe they would not understand. So, I believe it's ok that you are keeping this away from your friend. Maybe if the situation was different (he lived near you) then it would be a diff story.
2007-12-21 03:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by Hilda S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well it seems you got urself in a predicament there. Well what do you think she will think of it? Do you think she will think different of you in a negative way? And, are you gaining anything positive from this online chatting thing with this guy?obviously you guys are close and she would try to understand the situation and help you out. so i would say tell her and end the online relationship with the guy. Nothing good can come of it except for situations like this and a broken heart. He isnt going to help you out in the long run and it seems he will just make your life worse. I hope that this helps and i wish the best of luck to you.
2007-12-21 03:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the problem with females and their friends. They feel the need to tell their friends every little detail of their lives. Then they are so shocked and amazed when the friend (for some reason or another) lets out all the little secrets that she was told. Some things just don't concern other people and is none of their business, friends or not.
2007-12-21 03:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her! Hopefully she'll understand.
But I get how hard it is...Trust me. I met my guy online too, and its so complicated to explain to friends and family. I always dodge the subject, and say something like "Yeah, he is out of state right now" it saves me many judgemental looks.
But If she is really your bestfriend...Of course she will worry at first! & be skeptical. But when she sees how much you care, that should pass.
2007-12-21 03:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs Adorkable 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your best friend for a reason. You two have qualities that you share, whether it is being sweet, being party girls, or maybe you are opposites that have attracted. Either way, she is your best friend and I'm sure she would be understanding if you went ahead and told her the truth.
P.S. Don't forget, it's better to let ANYone know information you are holding from them before they find out through others or on their own.
good luck :)
2007-12-21 03:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Amber E 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell your best friend if she truly is your best friend then she will always be there for you and you can tell her. If your really unsure about what to do with this guy your best friend will be able to tell you. That is what they are here for to help you in your times of troubles. So if I was you I would tell her and don't feel stupid about it.
2007-12-21 03:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, ultimately its your secret to share or not share with whoever you want. I have things that I dont tell my bestfriends but i'm a very private person when it comes to love. Look at it this way if you tell her she'll either yell at you or she'll help you if you don't you will always wonder what she would have said.
2007-12-21 03:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by caityjayne13 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your friend about it. You seem to need a little reality check on this. It doesn't seem real, but it's a fantasy that keeps you going and all that. Still, the red flag goes up when you say you are feeling distanced from your friend (your real world) b/c of a pretend romance you have online.
If you trust your friend, talk to her.
2007-12-21 03:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by Baloneyus_Monk 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel like you should tell her then tell her about it, if she's truely your bestfriend then she'll accept that and love you no matter what you cant help who you like or love in lfe that's that
2007-12-21 03:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by crecychris90 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋