I am expecting a social worker to come to my home?

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Question Details: to investigate me and my husband. My Probation Officer told me I'm a wonderful mother 99% of the time, but the other 1% worries her greatly. So they're coming, and bringing the cops because they don't expect us to be cooperative, and may expect us to be combative. I am torn between wanting to show I'm a good parent by cooperating, and being furiously protective of my family and its privacy. I feel like I'm going to burst. Any advice? I don't even know what category to place this question in.

Answer 1

just act like a lady, and be calm... try to take a long brisk walk a while before they get there... then maybe a bubble bath.

there is no sense doing anything less than gathering your own dignity and acting like someone who has common sense...

the law does have the right to step in if they feel things aren't "right".

you seem to want GOOD THINGS for your family, so being open to the social worker's visit and your cooperation could be a first step in the absolute right directin.

take care, and i hope things work out well.

Answer 2

Honestly, the only time I have known them to bring the cops is when they plan on taking the children out of the home. And that would really depend on what he has said to them, and the accusations that have been made. But it is always in your best interest to be as cooperative as you can be. Make sure your house is clean, and there is food. If there is no sign of abuse and you have everything that they need, then there should be no problems, and the case closed. And also if it is shown that there is no cause for this, then go to your probation officers superior and file a complaint.

Answer 3

hi dear, I know you have already bared a lot of your soul but can you explain a little more like why you have a probation officer in the first place, how old r your kids and what is the story with your husband. the best thing to do is to comply and be honest in any area where you need help are you a part of a church, speak to your pastor and see if they can attend the meeting with you. also explain to the social worker, that you are hurt and concerned at the possibility of being taken advantage of and possibly having your family broken up. ask the social worker to make suggestions that they think would help you to improve at being a better parent and having a better home. be calm an agreeable .

Answer 4

Your only choice is to be cooperative. I know it is an invasion of your privacy but you cannot win by being combative. I have dealt with many an a--hole cops in my life and have learned the hard way that you can only beat them is in the court room. Let them come. Be polite. Make sure your house is neat and clean. The kids should be bathed and dressed neatly. If you have an attorney our attorney should be present, get one. There are free legal services available if you can not afford an attorney. You may find them on-line or through your local government assistance office. If you are a good parent and your kids are safe with you, everything should be fine. If they take your kids do not fight with them. This will make it more difficult to get your kids back.

Try to relax before they come. You want to be calm and in control of your emotions while they are there. Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Those people generally come to help you and your child. What I can suggest is to take a deep breath, think a bit and calm down. I know they can be overwhelming but you shouldn't be worried if you are in the right. Nothing can be achieved in an angry state of mind.

Answer 6

Comply I have had social services in my home before and my mother complied and they asked us questions. I answered truthfully and they left us alone no follow-up or anything. If you do not comply it will just make it harder on you, and very hard on your children. They could rip your children right from under you and put them into a group home. During the inspection just keep telling yourself it is for your kids sake that you comply.

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Answer 7

what is the 1% they are worried about?

I suggest you comply with what they ask, even though it is intrusive. You have to do whats best for your children.

Things must be fairly bad for them to come out to you (I'm not accusing you, but I don't know the situation - need more info), I knew a girl who was beating her baby and shaking it, when we called DOCS they basically told us, they can't do anything unless the child is near dead... it was really horrible...

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Answer 8

Control your temper and cooperate. They are doing it for your own good and the good of your children. You should thank them for being concerned about your kids' well-being. If you make life difficult for them, it's going to come back and haunt you.

Answer 9

Please remember that you're all working towards the same goal - that you want the best for your children. It might help you to feel less antagonistic towards their intervention. Let them know that your keen, like them, to find answers and will cooperate to achieve the best outcome for your kids. Don't get angry, and if you struggle with this, ask for help to manage your anger.

Answer 10

what is the 1%??

If it has anything to do with violent behavior, then you probably shouldn't be too defensive. Social services no longer is able to enter your home without cops...against policy...so that shouldn't alarm you too much. I would question why they are investigating you moreso than how to act when they come....if you change your behavior, then they would no longer need to come!