or are their annoying traits of bossiness, know-it-all-ness, and haughtiness things that they simply can not hide?
2007-12-20 16:39:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I was terribly abused during every part of my childhood. I am humble, loving, forgiving, quiet and kind. No one has the right to put others down...no excuses.
2007-12-21 01:03:12 · update #1
Faith, please email me sometime. I am trying to figure out the best route to overcome my horrible anxiety and constant fear that has resulted from growing up completely terrified by a parent who mentally tortured me from as far back as I can remember until I left home. Thank you.
2007-12-21 07:02:29 · update #2
Wow Daisy- Yousound EXACTLY like me. I had an abusive upbringing, but because of it, I am super sensitive, a little on the shy side, always try to keep everyone happy, I don't like conflict, and almost "too" nice to where I get myself hurt becasue of it. I married the man of my dreams 4 years ago and he treats me so good, in a way I've never been treated before and I love him so much for that. He has shown me Christ and how beautiful life can be.
I think most people are "bossy" or have dominating personalities are one of two things. I believe they had a rough childhood and that is how they "react" to it (as my sister who is completely opposite of me) or that they are just very confident in themselves, but just haven't learned how to express it in a proper manner (like their parents were bossy ad controlling when they were children).
It just amazed me when I read you statement, because your upbringing sounds exactly like mine and you described your personality as if you were describing my own personality! I think we are rare though, because both my sister and my brother (who were raised the same way I was) both have dominating personalities, but deep down I can tell that they are both insecure deep inside- I just know them too well.
My husband and I both moved out of California, where all my family is, to raise our 2 children "away" from that environment and we are so happy just being surrounded by a nice Christian circle and even some non-Christians who are just good people to be around. I just saw a phyciatrist for the very first time because I thought I had "Social Anxiety". Well, she diagnosed me with "Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder" and said that my social anxiety is just a bi-product that will eventually fade over time as the Post-Traumatic Stress Disoder fades through lots of therapy.
I really feel sorry for the people who have dominating personalities because they are trying to surpress their insecurities. Not saying that ALL people with dominating personalities have insecurities, but I do believe the vast majority are sufferers from their past and that is, unfortunately, how they cope.
Thank you for the Very interesting Question Daisy!! This is a good topic and I love to hear others answers on this.
2007-12-21 01:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by WorldPeace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No. Some people with very STRONG dominant trait tends to be more creative and assertive in the way they resolve issues. They are fast thinkers and tend to base their decision making skills on many informations they gather around. They have insatiable inquisitive mind and very sensitive,
Sometimes, their assertiveness is interpreted by people as "bossy" or "self-centered" traits. Those people who do not accept the assertiveness of others are the ones that get hurt psychologically or emotionally.
Take care. Happy holidays.
2007-12-21 00:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by Prof F 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think in some cases, people with dominate personalities may have had a rough upbringing and had overbearing or very dominate parents...or were bullied in school, or had traumatic experiences, such as having been raped,etc...these people will most likely not talk about their suffering...but will be on the defensive with others so as not to be hurt anymore.
2007-12-21 01:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by birdtennis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they are insecure with themselves.
I know someone who was very overweight, and also very mean.
When she lost ALL of her weight, all of a sudden,
she was the sweetest person. It was like a miracle! Lol!!
A hard upbringing, or abuse, and jealousy can also
bring out those characteristics.
2007-12-21 03:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Peas♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am Not bossy or haughty
2007-12-21 00:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by angels_angelsarehere 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe they are incredibly insecure people who try to use dominance to hide it.
2007-12-21 00:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by Pakm@n86 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree with you.
I Cr 13;8a
2007-12-21 02:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically yes.
2007-12-21 00:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋