If they were to stay for 4 or 5 days, I very frustrated with our travel plan this winter, my son is not well controlled- he break things on purpose and my husband insisted that we'll be welcome that long staying with his parents.
I really don't know his parents too well, I don't want to over stay our welcome. I don't know what to do...
2007-12-20 16:35:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
it's a small town home, we all got to share one tiny room. I just don't know what my husband know what he's doing
2007-12-20 16:37:58 · update #1
Perhaps you could get your husband's mother to help you discipline your son -- teach him not to break things. That might help form a common ground between you and make you more confident about your son's behavior. Grandmas seem to know a lot about stuff like that.
To help your son, you should bring along some of his favorite toys and some quiet things for him to do. If you don't do it already, start reading to him. Make sure he gets his naps when he needs them. Bring along whatever snacks he usually gets. The more familiar things you can bring along, the less chance your son will be upset.
Remember, if he gets over-tired he's more likely to act up. At his age, schedule is everything.
2007-12-20 20:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying. I have a rowdy two year old son and we don't like staying the night other places just because it makes it harder. Honestly you should talk to your husband. Tell him how you feel. Ask if his parents place is child proof? Because if its not then that is like double your work and your son may not sleep well outside of his own home. And if you all are sharing one room, that's less sleep for all of you and every one is cranky because of it. I would try to compromise with him. The most we stay overnight away from the house is two days and its exhausting.
Good luck and happy holidays!
2007-12-21 00:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely know how you feel. I am firm with my son but he has behaviour problems. He throws things, and break things, and at the moment no form of punishment is sinking in. I've known LOTS of boys like this, and with time and consistency they do grow out of it but please know it is quite normal and it's not your fault. It's hard to be on top of things 100% of the time in someone else's house. I don't like taking my son to someone else's house for even a few hours. I spend the time chasing him around, pulling him off things, telling him off, putting him in time out. I can't sit and relax. 4 or 5 days is a long time to be under that sort of stress.
I'd explain to your husband that you'e sure his parents are fantastic but that you can't enjoy the holiday worrying about your son's behaviour every minute of the day. Maybe next year things would be different. I think a hotel would be a good idea!
Don't listen to people who say you just need to hit your child or imply you've deliberately let him get out of control. Of course you have to exercise discipline but 2-3 year olds can, quite naturally, be a handful. It's part of their development. It's up to us to manage it but don't let anyone feel guilty. I'm sure you're a great mother.
2007-12-21 04:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by Janey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 or 3 is definitely old enough to learn good behavior, you and your husband are the ones at fault not him, however it is ridiculous to expect anyone else family or not to tolerate a child who purposely breaks things and is out of control. Think how you would feel if someone elses child came in your home and treated your things like that.
You need to start controlling his behavior, because it is not fair to him for people to feel anger towards him because you and your husband have not taught him to behave.
2007-12-21 12:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently he is not too worried because its his parents but i don't blame you. i have two kids of my own 4 and 2 year old girls and they are a hand full. look it is only 4 or 5 days and not a week or 2 you know.
grandparents should be accepting no matter what and help full well lets at least hope. just take it 1 day at a time what else can you do!
2007-12-21 00:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a problems with young children coming to stay at my home for extended visit, but I can see your concern.
I would have your husband call his parents and ask them to please put up glass objects, sentimental things, or anything they don't want broken. When you get there, baby-proof the room you will all be sleeping in so he has 1 "safe" room to go to. Try to keep his schedule as normal as possible and discipline him as if you were home with him.
2007-12-21 00:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
breaking things on purpose!! 2 and 3 year olds are renowned for being hard work but to break things intentionally i think he needs a good firm hand across his backside, maybe the grandparents can instill some discipline in him.
i would opt for a hotel and visit the family, but understand why you dont want to rock the boat with your husband at this festive time. .... whatever you choose i think you'll need a good drink after it! good luck and happy christmas.
2007-12-21 03:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs R 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is up to his parents to make him behave. If my children acted like that I would not take them to someone elses house. You better stay on top of him and do not let him break their stuff.
2007-12-21 01:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Spank His Butt If He Acts Up! You Just Need to teach him how to behave at other peoples house. My Daughter Is 18 months old and she know that she doesn't break stuff at home. Let Alone anywhere else. And why Isn't he "well Controlled"? You Need To Get control of him If its THAT bad! It only gets worse as they get older!
2007-12-21 00:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by KiKi 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Yes.....Just scold him if he trys to bother things. If you do not want to stay there then tell your husband you want to stay at a hotel.
2007-12-21 01:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋