2007-12-20 15:42:58 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
what would you think if it was my 11 year old daughter
2007-12-20 15:54:52 · update #1
respect his privacy and learn how to knock on a door before opening it. apologize to the kid and explain to him that what he did is normal and healthy.
2007-12-20 15:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by KitKat 7 · 9⤊ 2⤋
I think it's fine! I don't think there's really a "normal" in 2012. Everyone is (and should be) whoever they are. If he's into fashion who cares. Maybe he'll grow up to be a famous designer! That doesn't make him gay if that's what you're worried about and if it is,aslo, who cares? If he's smart and making good decisions you should not be questioning if he's normal you should be patting him on the back for being an amazing kid! I hear you on the bullying thing but you supporting him is most important. If kids are bullying him then you say "Well don't read the magazines or look different" or an answer that suggest he change who he is, that will send him the message you support the bully. I would take a serious intrest in what he's doing. Ask him what he read about or what he like in the magazine. Just be a mom to the amazing kid you have and don't worry what other people think of his!!!!!!!!!!!
2016-04-10 10:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
close the door, later you should have a talk about "the birds and the bees" if ya know what I mean. Your boy is doing something normal, hell I still do at 28 sometimes, he's discovering his own sexuality, he's an adolescent. He may just need some privacy and some understanding, knock next time.
hope this helps,
Dave
if it was your daughter, the same as above
2007-12-20 15:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dave R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act as if nothing happened. At age 11, this is not unusual. Don't make a big deal about it. Otherwise, you could really give him a complex about it. He's insecure enough right now, without you adding more stress to his life.
2007-12-20 15:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by legendofslipperyhollow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is currently 3 so i would rather not think about this yet
but when she is older if i walked in on her i would just appologize and shut the door then knock and wait for her permission to come in
also from that point on i would know it was time to knock
i would also have a talk with her about things to be done in private,sex,love,puberty etc.... because at this point the child is obviously ready to know about this stuff
2007-12-20 16:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by squeaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, thank God that he is normal.
Next, if you have not already done so, have a first talk with him about the mechanics of sex, and also about what it means beyond the mechanics of it. I say a "first talk" because there should be more of them. Also, get a book or tow about boys growing up, and go over it with him. Puberty is a really confusing time - give him information and let him know that he can talk with you about it.
2007-12-20 15:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by DadOnline 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not -- I repeat do not -- freak out. the sexual urge is normal and you should talk with him about since there's already plenty of negativity in our puritanical society about sex. I suggest telling him that it's normal to have sexual feelings and this it is something is private and should always be done in his own room/bathroom (which is where he was, right?). it would also be a good time to discuss other aspects of sex -- girls, avoiding STD's and pregnancy, not having sexual relationships too young, etc, etc.
create a level of trust where he can ask you anything -- and I do mean anything (though you don't have to answer every questions about your own sex life) -- and you'll avoid a lot of problems later.
2007-12-20 15:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by wendy.bryan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An 11-year old is NOT a toddler or preschooler. C'mon MOM!
You don't do anything. It is perfectly natural. Let him know that it is something that people do in private and that it is nothing to be ashamed of. Also let hom know that it is not something to be proud of and he should keep it private.
2007-12-20 15:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't embarass the poor boy. I'm sure he's upset enough that his mom caught him in the act. It's time to have a talk about the birds and the bees.
2007-12-20 15:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you confront him and tell him, it is bad. You will mess the kid up for the rest of his life. He may be early, but totally normal. If you talked during the confrontation, definately have a conversation about how its normal immediately. If it was a quick peek, you may be able to ignore it.
Remember to knock!!!!!
2007-12-20 15:50:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone, close the door and walk away. Just be sure to have the birds/bees talk with him. Hes about that age
2007-12-20 15:49:51 · answer #11 · answered by Panda 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋