me and my bf have been dating for a month and bout a week. how do you know when is the right time to do the next step?? like we have kissed already but when is the right time to start makeing out and stuff like that..?? how do know when it is the right time?? help me!!!
2007-12-20 15:10:15 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dro i am 17
2007-12-20 15:16:00 · update #1
well i am 17 and i am a softmore and do not plan on sex till i am done with high school or marriage
2007-12-20 15:23:01 · update #2
If he hasn't made out with you yet, you will probably get dumped in the next couple of days.
2007-12-20 15:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by T.O. 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well hopefully you have plans and clear picture of where you want your future to go. Having a bf at this early of an age can really mess those kinds of things up if you don't. Hopefully you know the guy and what his intentions are. That being said if you like the guy a lot, you will know when the time is right to go further. If you do end up having sex, please be safe about it. Don't take the risk of bring a child into the world your not ready for.
2007-12-21 03:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are, but the first thing you need to know is to think for yourself, and allow no one else to do your thinking for you.
It is the world that says...."to be normal...to be like everyone else you need to......" Not true! You need to have real reasons why you do things or don't do them....and they need to be valid ones.
And you and your boy friend then need to discuss your own opinions and why you have them.
Usually, it is the girl that sets the standards. The guy...if he really cares about you...will respect your standards and your values. If he doesn't, then he just wants his own at your expense....and realize the cost and the consequences usually are the girl's most of all.
I taught all my girls to wait for that one person...that one relationship that will last your whole life...because that is what dating is all about...finding that person. You date others to find out what you like or don't like about them....that doesn't mean you have to play around or that you "owe them" yourself in the process!
If you wait, you will be glad you did! And a guy, who is willing to wait with you...really cares about you, and really respects your standards. You will avoid diseases you didn't expect, children born too soon, and a life that is not ready to handle it., or is ruined because you now have a child you weren't ready for!
So choose wisely, for your own sake. It pays in the long run, and doing things the right way, in the right timing is well worth it.
2007-12-20 15:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, please don't be in too much of a hurry. Trust me, you've got your whole life ahead of you! I remember young love (really! it wasn't that many years ago!!!) -- and the mistakes I made too! It's all very exciting and hot and all, but there's no changing your mind and going back once you've moved on to the next step. Be sure of what you're doing, and know that this guy is someone you want to really be with, not just another "mistake" to add to your experiences. Don't just do it because all your friends are or because you feel pressured to. You know, there's this misconception that "everyone's doing it," when you'd really be surprised at how many people really aren't. Honest! You don't have to be just another statistic. Respect yourself!!!
2007-12-20 15:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by darylann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are at least 16 before you start making out. And for goodness sakes use a condom! This is not directed at you, but you might have heard about Lynne Spears. 16 years old and pregnant. This is why people in small towns don't like city folk. back to your question you will know. just make sure your at least 16 and use protection.
2007-12-20 15:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by Weapon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're only doing it for the sake of doing it, DONT do it. Things like that are best when they go with the moment, not when other people say you should. Besides, once you go past a certain point, there's nothing left to wait for, and it loses all its charm.
2007-12-20 15:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a virgin WAIT...If you feel like you want to just WAIT! When you start having sex it opens up a whole different book just WAIT! If you have already had sex I mean when the time is right it will happen...try not to plan it
2007-12-20 15:15:32 · answer #7 · answered by e&t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right time is when both of you feel comfortable with it. Its only been a month. Just enjoy yourself right now and don't rush anything.
2007-12-20 15:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by Cameron 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will just feel it!
it will come soon enough, dont worry.
you will be kissing and get the urge to go further. It will all work out, no need to rush it!
you two have fun, and be safe!!
2007-12-20 15:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
none else can help you with this, there isn't a set time that you go to the next level. step up when YOU feel your ready. good luck
2007-12-20 15:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋