Well, I am not one to tell someone who they can and can't be friends with..but he has had sex with this girl and they went out for about 2 years..and they still hang out and talk/text and everything. I've only been going out with him for about a month so I don't think I can really say he can't be friends with her..but part of me wants to. It bothers me a lot because I am a jealous territorial mofo..It drives me up a wall when I hear that they were hanging out or talking on the phone..what should I do? I want her OUT of the picture..
2007-12-20 14:44:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, you do not. if you try to make it so, it will only make it worse. Let it run its course, you'll be happier in the long run if you do.
2007-12-20 14:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a new relationship. Its only normal to be jealous. You have been with him for 1 mnth.
He was with his ex for 2 years, so there is a lot of history.
What you dont mention is your age.
This makes a huge diffrence.
Just ask him out right what it is that makes you feel insecure.
If he's a decent guy, then the question that you want to ask him shouldn't bother him. If he starts getting all defencieve, then maybe this should be a cause for alarm.
What about talking to friends or parents.
Good luck
2007-12-20 15:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by imcshane7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. I have been in the same sitituation for over 10 years! and I am not with him now. I love him more than any other guy that I have been with.It is not to late to be freinds again if you both can just be friends unless you want to waste a lot of your time on b.s. And just remember you broke up for a reason just remember that.
2016-05-25 06:14:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were together for a long time that meens that they are close and you realy don't have a right to forbid him from being around her . Maybe you could ask him not to be alone with her just to put your mind at ease that you are not just the for now girlfriend. But remember a relationship that isn't built on trust isn't worth wile
2007-12-20 14:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Passionate C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go all ballistic on him or anything, that will likely drive him off more than anything. bring it up calmly and casually, that it does bug you a little bit. dont say that you want him to not have any contact at all with her, even though that does seem what you are going for, but tell him it makes you uncomfortable. that may be enough for him to take your feelings in consideration and not spend as much time with her if he can.
hope it works out for you.
2007-12-20 14:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Evan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it this way he is with you and not her, she is an Ex for a reason
let them stay friends you will know if he over steps the mark and in a few more months when you have established your relationship and bit more just tell him that you fell a little uncomfortable with it and he will understand
good luck and i hope it all works out for you
2007-12-20 15:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by MICHAEL A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u can tok to him tell him that u feel to uncomfortable with him goin out with his ex or tok to his ex... i mean u cant control him (As most guy dun like to be control) so maybe u could tell him nicely how u feel ...or maybe can ask him to go out with the ex less ... hopes this help.. cos i can understand how u feel ...cos i oso dun like my bf to contact with the ex...
my point of view is since is ex so why bother to contact.... if i really care abt my current partner i should care abt his/her feelings... if not it will be a selfish act...
2007-12-20 14:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Chris Chu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be in the same situation before. Just chill about it, there's nothing you can do. I am now the 'friend' of the same guy while he's seeing other people.
2007-12-20 16:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by hypnoticpoison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay friends w your ex. its only fair. make sure he knows you talk to yours. dont give him your heart. dont give him your all. half *** it with him and tease him. you can stay with him a little while but act like you dont care if he talks to his ex. Be cool, be fun, be CONFIDENT. YOUR THE GODDESS FOR HIM. Convince him your the goddess for him! After a long while, you will notice if he crosses the line with her. If he hides messages phone calls...starts sneaking...then draw the line. cut him off tell him your through and moving on. your not going to share your man.
2007-12-20 14:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by Fiona 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you know u won't be able to cope, its better to opt out now unless your bf assured you that everything will be okay. Good luck to you and decision is yours
2007-12-20 15:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by Pretty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you,10. Friends are hard to come by. Leave them alone.
2007-12-20 14:48:09 · answer #11 · answered by Neescousin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋