My grandfather sent me to the hospital. not by what he did physically but bye the words he told me over and over. my grama is dieing snf she thinks that the whle thin was and is my fault. should i tell her it was my fault so she can die in peace? cuz she wont even talk to me or my dad which is her son. and i feel awful about it..what should i do?
2007-12-20 14:39:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
okay well my grama stands by my grandpas side no mater what she knows how to hold a grudge and somthin very bad happened about a year ago and she blames me because of what happened with my grandpa. so shes not talking to be because i didnt take responseability for what my grandfather did. now she is dieing and i want her to die in peace does this mean that i should tell her it was my fault so she wont hate me when she dies?
2007-12-20 14:46:55 · update #1
Well did you do something wrong?
If not no.
If yes then yes tell her.
But if you are completely not to blame then let it go its not your fault that she is being the way she is and she will learn the truth soon enough.
I am sorry for what is happening to you and you should not have to deal with more crap on top of what is already going on.
2007-12-20 15:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No!! do not take credit for something that is not your fault!! I f she won't see you, write her a card or note and let someone take it to her. If she won't read it , then at least you tried. Don't blame yourself for what happened.
MY grandfather did something when I was 6 and it didn't stop until I was 16 when I left home. I never told my grandmother, but my mom knew cause it happened to her too, and she still thought it wouldn't happen. but I didn't take the blame. I still don't. Now my family knows the truth.
2007-12-20 14:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by catsangel777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused by the question...Your grandfather sent you to the hospital to talk to your grandmother? Or You were admitted to the hospital? What does snf mean? She blames the fact that she's dying on you? Did you have a fight...need more information!
2007-12-20 14:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you feel is best for you. If she chooses to leave this world full of hate that is her issue. Please do not take this on as your responsibility, it is not. And it is unfair for you to think this way. We are all born to die and your grandmother has lived long enough to gain wisdom and understanding. I am sorry she is dying but please do not blame yourself for any of her ill will toward you. Your grandfather if he did something wrong, should accept responsibility for his behaviors and stop trying to blame you. God bless you ****
2007-12-20 15:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a little confused but if it was not your fault do not say that it is. Do not make yourself feel bad so she can feel better. If it was not your fault she should know better than to blame you.
2007-12-20 15:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't your fault. Ignore them. They want to be misserable? Fine. You are better off without them.
2007-12-20 14:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry but your question is very confusing. could you be more specific.
2007-12-20 14:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by Gabrielle 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋