My boyfriend says that is enough. That he won't really care what he gets. Also my parents and his got him a lot of stuff too. He says I act like he needs 16 presents.
I feel like a crappy parent only getting those three things. What I got was a bus with little people in it, a semi carrying about 10 cars and one of those doodle pro's. I think coming from the parents should be a lot more than that.
All my boyfriend got was underwear, socks and white t-shirts for Christmas. So he has never really been in Christmas mood. My parents always tried to make Christmas the most exciting day of the year and I want that for him too. I think he just does not want to spend the money buying presents. Whenever he has this attitude I am like uuuh it's Christmas. I just don't understand him.
So your opinion?
PS:My son is two and a half.
2007-12-20 14:20:31 · 24 answers · asked by Random 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I guess ultimatly it depends on what your financial ability it is and how much you ahve to spend. He is old enough to get the concept of Christmas presents and such, but young enough that he is not gonna remember that you only got him 3 things this year.
Coming from a family that seemingly only gave presents bc they felt they had to (thats about the only time in my experience anyone gets socks underwear and tshirts... someone feels obligated to buy presents, but has no idea what to get the person and doesnt really want to put much thought into it, with the exception of an actual literal need for those things), it doesnt surprise me that he isnt into gift giving and Christmas. Its not near as fun when its something you think you have to do.
My feelings were more hurt when I realized the only reason some people bought presents for me or got me big things was because they felt obligated to, than I ever was on the years where money was tight and I didnt get much.
2007-12-20 16:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents always made a huge deal of christmas as well and it was really exciting but I don't remember any christmas's before I was like 10. For my sons first chirstmas he wasnt even 3 months old. I don't remember what I got him. For the last 2 christmas's I got him a ton of stuff and it was fun and everything. This christmas we just had another baby so I'm pretty broke until I go back to work so he isnt getting a ton. I think I bought him 1 bigger toy and then like 4 or 5 smaller ones. My son is just a little over 3 years old. At first I was really bummed that I didnt have the money to do a huge christmas but he will get presents from other people and I just bargained shopped for some little small gifts. Honestly from my own experience I know that he wont remember it a month from now much less when he's old enough to look back on it and I guarantee your son wont either. Oh yeah and his dad bought him some shoes, the funny thing is my son loves shoes so that will probably be his favorite gift even though he already has too many pairs to count. lol
2007-12-20 14:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like good presents. We spent about $50 on my boyfriend's 2 1/2 yr old this year. Little people toys are great. He's getting some of those and a "football shirt" and a sesame street movie. His grandma's are gonna spoil him, so we just got him a few gifts he will really like. He'll play with them for a few months and then his birthday will roll around and he'll get new toys and forget about the old ones. Kids that age develop so quickly that it's really not necessary to get a bunch of toys they will grow out of in a few months. If you really feel the need to spend more money for the munchkin, a few ideas: swimming lessons (or any other lessons karate, gymnastics, etc) and make a little present with the necessary gear...swimsuit and towel or whatever. A membership to a nearby zoo that gets unlimited visits throughout the year for your family (take lots of trips to the zoo so the wee one can enjoy the animals). If all else fails, buy a savings bond. Put it away and it can be used for your kids education or whatever later on down the road when he can really appreciate it.
2007-12-20 14:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by princess_dnb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At two and a half, he won't care how many presents he gets. Your boyfriend is right there. Your son will probably want to play with the first thing he opens, and then won't care much about anything else. If he has too many presents, he'll get overwhelmed.
There are no rules about how many presents you buy your children. Some parents only buy one main gift, plus a few stocking fillers, others buy lots - it's entirely up to you. But it does sound as if there are going to be plenty of gifts already.
2007-12-21 02:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kukana 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Christmas is a big deal in my family. My parents used to do whatever they had to do to give us a big Christmas. I am the same with my son. Hes as spoiled as all get out. However, I dont think you should let your finances go for it. He is young, he'll never remember this Christmas. To me, I guess it would hurt my feelings more than his if I woke up Christmas morning knowing that he only had 3 gifts. Just do whats right for you. As long as you are paying for the gifts, theres nothing your boyfriend can say.
2007-12-20 15:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by happy_mommy1245 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My children are spoiled so its hard for me to answer this with out bias but I think they need the essentials like socks underwear jammies but then they need stocking stuffers and they also need Santa toys and mommy and daddys toys so whats that like 10 things I would say mold your 2 traditions together sooner or later he will realize that Christmas morning when they wake up and see all of the gifts is the best time of your life as a parent.
2007-12-20 15:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by cowsywowsy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where you are coming from I have three children under four and all have B-days around this wonderful holiday. I am not rich far from it so my husband and I buy three gifts for all three. One big one such as this year for my four year old she got the pet shop, my twins both got a little people play house. Than I bought all three of them games like Candyland, etc. For socking stuffers I got hair pretties, earrings, and a $4.00 Barbie. I also bought DVDs for them. i also in Nov. got one shirt and pair of pants for each I spend only $200.00 thats including what I got for my husband. So you don't have to go all wild on gifts. If your son is anything like my girls they will find something big and better two weeks later LOL, or it will break or pieces will be lost. Good Luck and Best Wishes.
2007-12-20 14:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by sweetteepi2282 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i've always bought tonz of presents - but, your bf is also right - about your son most likely won't know..... If you are like me - you start big - you have to get bigger all the time - and as they get older- things get so much more expensive - (xboxs, Wi's,etc) - if you have the money spend it - it money is a problem .. at that age, you could even go to the dollar store and get things just to add more presents to it. for him to already think he needs 16 presents - well, to me thats a problem..... I'd teach him off the bat he doesn't need that many presents.. because..can you imagine,
16 presents
X
$200
when they get older!
what i do for my kids - they get 1 big presents (this year, 1 got a zune, 1 got golfclubs, and 1 got camcorder) and then we do about 5 more presents at $20-40 each...sometimes less.
2007-12-21 03:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably worried about spending too much money. By your age it seems you had your child at a young age and your boyfriend might be looking out for your future in context to bills and so on... three presents are enough for a 2 1/2 year old. Children only have a congnitive memory from as early as 3 1/2 years anyway so he/she wont remember it.
2007-12-20 14:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by Rumple 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My son is turning 3 in February and I had that same thought that he needs all of this stuff. Then when January rolls around I find myself asking why does my child have so much? This year I stuck to 5 presents, relatively small, and put money in his college account. Don't forget all those toys I am sure he already has. Your love for your child is not determined by the amount of gifts you buy....
Happy Holidays.
2007-12-20 14:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by tiffany m 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋