Honestly, what would you do if your special someone cheated on you?

Question

Real answers please.
Not ones like 'Throw him down a cliff' or 'knock him with a hammer'

Answer 1

what is 'your special someone'.
Anyway I love all so all are allowed to be themselves.

Answer 2

I'm a grown woman. If he cheats on me, and I KNOW that he did for sure, then I would ask no questions, I would leave. No one who says they love you, yet cheat on you the minute your back is turned, deserves any more of my VERY valuable time. Besides, knocking him with a hammer will probably result on a broken nail. And I think I like my nice long nails more than any cheating piece of s**t, thank you very much.

And to Giovanni up there: I think my life is VERY real. I talk from experience, not out of my *** like some other people do. Why would you stay with someone who, not only f***s up your self esteem, but decides to spend more time with this other person and his/her kids, than with you or your own children? There's a lot out of life I can teach my children, and letting some idot man diminish your worth as a human being is not one of them.

Answer 3

Here is another viewpoint. I was the cheater. I cheated on my husband for 2 years, and then later, when we separated for other reasons, I told him about it.

I was in a horrible loveless marriage, was being verbally, emotionally, and physically abused, and when what I needed so desperately came along, I took it. It was the abuse that caused our separation.

Now, after a year of not being together, we are back together and stronger than ever. He realized his mistakes, how important treating me as a human being is, and how much it hurt me. The abuse has stopped, he respects me and does not view me as property any longer because he sees that it my decision who to give myself to, not anyone else's, and it is out of sheer love and of my own will that I am with him.

There are always 2 sides to every story. There is always a reason or an issue that drives a person to do this, and this reason can range anywhere from being unhappy or unfulfilled to being a sex addict. But there is ALWAYS a reason. If you love the person, it is sometimes worth looking into what those reasons are before making any kind of decision either way.

Answer 4

It would depend on a lot things. Has our relationship been in trouble? Was it one time, one person? Was it more then one person? Was there emotion or feelings there? WHY did he cheat? Weakness? Anger?
The world is not black and white. Nothing in the world is black and white. I have three kids and my husband and I are both human. Humans screw up and sometimes they screw up big. If we were willing to work it out, why would I kick him out and make the kids pay for OUR mistakes?
Life just isn't black and white.

edit to add: My answer isn't a yes or no by the way. If he had a long standing affair with one woman and spent more time with her then he did his kids? Yes I would leave him. It would cause more damage to stay. If he was weak one night after we had been fighting for a month and were thinking about divorce? Well...I don't know. It would be up for debate.

Answer 5

One thing I really respect about my father, Grandfathers, & uncles is that in our family cheating is unacceptable.

Our family motto is find one woman and do everything with her.

Cheating is cheating on the whole family. It destroys not only the marriage, but the marriages of the children.

If I ever found out that my wife cheated on me, then I would end the marriage. I will not bear that kind of heart-ache and live a life of uncertainty once I know.

I give her loyalty and respect as a human being, and if she is going to be that selfish, then I do not want to know her.

Answer 6

My response would be simple: he'd never see or speak with me again. Realistically, if he cheated on me, isn't that exactly what he really wanted to happen anyway?

I'm not the sort of person who would throw things or cause him bodily harm. I'd just cut him out of my life completely and try to move on.

Answer 7

Well I had a boyfriend who cheated on me several years ago, he decided to leave me after 3yrs for a younger girl, 12 yrs his Jr. I let him go, but not before I cut the crotch out of all his pants. I figured if he wanted to expose himself to others, I'd just made it easier for him. Since then, he still hasnt found anyone as good to him as I was, He tells me that every time I run into him.

Answer 8

Look to the Bible:
Hebrews 13:4: "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."

Matthew 19:9 "I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."
Even if you aren't married to this person they have shown a lack of respect for your relationship. Ditch him! I did.

Answer 9

Ask him how and why it happened. Asses the situation. If I think he's going to do it again, kick him to the curb. But even in a situation like this, one shouldn't be hasty. Sometimes an accident is just an accident. I don't believe "once a cheater, always a cheater" is applicable to all situations. If there is room for forgiveness, it's always better than holding a grudge. However, trust is a hard thing to regain. Love is easy, trust is difficult.

Answer 10

Divorce him and Marry someone else.
It's not fair that he got to make love to someone else and I didn't.

What if that guy does the same thing you say?

Well I'll just repeat the same pattern again.(I love Men) I'm just here to make love lawfully within the realms of Islam anyway. If My husband cheats on me thats his own loss, he has God to deal with. Allah created a wide variety of Men for me to choose from.
I must be fruitful and multiply.

Answer 11

That happened to me and before it did I told him if he diud that and I ever found out I would disappear from his life but never actually thought it would happen...then it did and I did what I said although I didn't want to because as hurt as I was I still wanted to keep seeing him. But something inside would not let me and that was the end of it. I still miss him but it's dead and buried.
I found out by accident; I had seen many signs but ignored them, I was in total denial, and then one night I had this incredible impulse to drive by his house; my Mom thought I was nuts. I went and there was a strange car in his driveway and all the outside lights were on...he NEVER had guests and he NEVER left the lights on; in fact, he would turn them off even before I reached my car.
But for her...he left them on even when they weren't there. I never got over that! I called and called and finally he answered and told me and I got it all out of him and that was the end...
The signs were change in music taste, change in clothing and suddenly spending a lot of money on clothes and things for his house, which he never did before, and an overall attitude of excitement and happiness never exhibited before...all the signs were there.