i had a friend in class who first talked to me by asking me for a date on the next assignment and i gave it to her. afterwards we would say hi to eachother and have mini talks after class. i started to realize she might like me so i started distancing myself from her. a couple of days later she asked me if i had a g/f and i said yes. she then also became more distant but we still talked. my girlfriend foung out about her when she saw some messages from her asking me for the notes she missed. i told her i would give her the notes after class one day and my girlfriend got mad. i never thought about cheating on her nor will i ever. i think she feels this way because i cheated in my past relationship, but i realized i was wrong for it and will not do it again. am i wrong for talking to my classmate?
2007-12-20 12:25:55 · 37 answers · asked by scam3689 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i tried explaining it to her but she doesnt believe me. she thinks there is other things that im not telling her about and there isnt. she just will not listen.
2007-12-20 12:39:24 · update #1
no way! you can talk to other girls! just talk to your girlfriend about this and if she trusts you, then she will understand. if she doesn't, then dump her and try to move on!
-JakeR'sGirl4Ever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-20 12:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well you were okay on talking to her. But you lost it on the term a date on the next assignment. Dating another is unfaithful. No going back on that detail now, but had it been getting together to study you would have been fine. Sorry, you are indicating something more than friendship. You should drop future contact with this second girl if you want to hold on to your girlfriend. If not, end things with your girlfriend and move on.
2007-12-20 12:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by genghis1947 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you are wrong for talking to her. I give you credit for being honest with the girl from your class about having a gf. You could have prevented your gf from getting mad by being honest with her though. You should have told her whats going on with the girl from your class. The whole situation with the girl from class sounds very innocent. I dont believe "once a cheater, always a cheater" but i do believe "honesty is the best policy" cheesy but true.
Good luck with that :)
2007-12-20 12:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by Leah K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's absolutely nothing wrong with talking to another person in class, especially if you've established that you have a girlfriend and said person accepts that. It sounds to me like your girlfriend is the jealous type, and that is definitely NOT good. You shouldn't need permission or whatever to talk to some other girl. I think you need to talk to your girlfriend and establish limits and rights that both of you have and tell her that she doesn't need to worry bout you cheating cuz you know for sure that that is wrong.
2007-12-20 12:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kitten69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not wrong at all for talking to your classmate, your entitled to have your own life. however, because you have cheated on a past relationship it automatically causes a "he did it once, he has the potential to do it again" and you need to be sensitive about that. Try explaining to your girlfriend (as im sure you have many times before) how she means a lot to you and you would never dream about cheating on her. However, seeming you have a "bad" past that in the future you will always let her know about new girls you meet and if you're friends with them.
2007-12-20 12:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No that's not cheating. Sounds like your gf is afraid of losing you. Explain that the girl in class is just a friend, and she just needed some notes. Maybe you should introduce them to each other. Good luck! Happy Holidays :)
2007-12-20 12:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with talking however if the girl has other interest in you then it is best to leave it alone. Getting too familiar with each other could lead to something that would only hurt all those involved. Respect your girlfriend's wishes because she may be a little insecure because of your past record.
2007-12-20 12:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by Obanroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it's what you did the last time then yes,because you don't wanna cheat again, so stop talking to this girl she's gonna just get deeper into liking you and that's not going to help you out with yout GF right now.if she's getting mad then that's a sign that there may be some trouble with this girl in the future.
2007-12-20 12:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...that's kind've a stupid reason for your girlfriend to get mad.
And I'm saying this in your defense, hun.
Seriously. You're just talking to the girl. You should be able to have friends of the female gender. Half of the whole relationship thing is trust...your girlfriend needs to trust you.
If you can't be friends with a female, especially one you simply see in class and have mini-conversations with. It doesn't even sound like you're hanging out with her out of class.
Keep being friends with your friend. Your girlfriend shouldn't be getting mad over stupid things such as that.
2007-12-20 12:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were just talking. Like, yeah your girlfriend probably has some trust issues because you've cheated on someone in the past, I probably would too, but you didn't do anything wrong, your girlfriend will get over it.
2007-12-20 12:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong, but your past is hard to live down. Most people think, once a cheat always a cheat. Prove it wrong. You did good distancing yourself. Show this to your g/f, maybe she will realize how much she means to you.
2007-12-20 12:34:12 · answer #11 · answered by penny12899 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋