i am only 14 and my boyfriend completely understands that i dont want to have sex yet but his friends tease him as he is 17 and isnt in a sexual relationship
i rele like him but wud hate to think i was being a bad girlfriend!
the reasonn that i dont want to have sexs because i have rele big inner labia and am scared he would thiknk i was diformed!?
ADVICE PLEEEEEEAAAAAAAASE!
2007-12-20 11:46:27 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this question breaks my heart.
You are 14, and want to have sex for all the wrong reasons (to avoid feeling guilty).
You're also worried about your inner labia? Seriously? I know this is a recent thing (thanks, internet) but there are better things to worry about. You aren't deformed, and don't go through your life giving the appearance of your inner labia another thought!
Please don't have sex with your boyfriend to avoid feeling guilty.
2007-12-20 11:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by alleywag 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Look if your boyfriend understands then he isnt bothered what his friends think, so why should you be? If you two are happy with your relationship then you are not being a bad girlfriend, quite the opposite, because you have come to the understanding that you wont be having sex.
Im sure there is nothing wrong with your labia either, maybe because your body isnt fully developed at 14 things dont seem to be in proportion although you will grow into your features.
You need to stop caring what others think. And also get some self confidence!
:-)
2007-12-20 11:54:13 · answer #2 · answered by munchkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are that worried then you are not a bad girlfriend at all. And to be honest, if he cares about you, then he wont think you are deformed. I believe that people should wait until they are married until they have sex even though I didnt, but I was 20 years old. I ended up marrying the guy too. I was afraid because I had no idea what I was doing. And if you feel bad because he is only 17 years old and not having sex, you should see what it is like to be 20 and not having sex. You want to know a secret? If you want a good guy in the future, he wont be looking for a girl that has had sex with all of her past boyfriends. My final advice is wait until you are older and with someone that isn't going to turn around and tell all of his friends. I hope you make the right decision.
2007-12-20 11:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although you say you don't want to have sex, the reason you gave was not a good one.There are more important reasons than a large labia(and how did you know about such things at your age)such as1) you are only 14, and not old enough or mature enough for a sexual relationship2)you do not know and are not mature enough for all the consequences of having sex like pregnancy, stds, single parenthood, lack of a job, education, financial resources, and knowledge3) the legal ramifications of sex with this guy---he could be arrested for rape, sexual assault and so on4) your parents reaction--- would you be willing to tell them what you have in mind to do and with whom; do you think they will be happy about it and give you their blessings.It appears that you are the one who wants this since you did say your boyfriend understands and he has not called you a bad girlfriend.I suggest you focus on your studies, family, platonic friends, your goals and interests and forget all about sexual intercourse for now. At the right time in the future(and with the right person), you will not have any reason to ask the type of questions you asked here and you will also be very happy you waited.
2007-12-20 12:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not being a bad girlfriend, refraining from sex before marriage indicates that you have high respect for yourself. You are only 14 and should not be thinking about that sort of thing.
If you give in, you will only be leading down a path unwanted heartbreak. The chances of you two keeping a relationship at that young of an age aren't really good.
Besides, it could lead to pregnancy which will force you to grow up too fast and hey there you go. It's better to wait.
AND this guy seems to want to wait and for you to make him give in would be disresectful of you
Let people laugh, it only shows how insecure they are
2007-12-20 11:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a. dont worry i doubt he will even notice the labia thing lol and i promise if for the most random and craziest reason that je did. . . i bet he wouldnt care
b. you r way to young to have sex and should def wait so please do! it really isnt a small matter but a big deal. . . but besides that if he said its ok then its ok a relationship is all about compromise and you saying you want to wait is normal and smart and b/c hes ok with it doesnt make you a bad girlfriend but makes him a GREAT boyfriend and ferget his friends all guys just act like that around their buddies :p and him being ok with no sex means he loves u for who you r and not your body :D so lets say he did dump u for not having sex that means hes a inconsiderate jackass but he didnt b/c hes not :)
... to the point u r not being a bad girlfriend but a smart woman in a caring and understanding relationship with a awesome guy that U chould charish
good luck!
2007-12-20 11:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by 3OH!3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how sex crazed this society is. I think a lot of people are not having sex as much as they think they should. But sex is good, it's understandable that there are sex crazed people. Maybe joining a church would help you find people and friends that are not particularly sex crazed, if you can handle christianity. But you know I would suggest going ahead and finding someone who is not sex crazed to have sex with.
2016-05-25 05:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by maribel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! That's not a good reason to have sex, and none of us need to know anything about your genitals...everything with you is fine physically.It's your thinking that needs to be adjusted a bit. You're too young...I know you won't believe me, but it's true. People are going to tease him for all sorts of reasons throughout a lifetime...they'll tease you too from time to time, but that's no reason to engage in a potentially life-altering act. That's not even what it's supposed to be about. You take all the time you need before taking that step. Life changes forever after that, so save that for a more special time in your life than just "tease repellent". Good luck to you.
2007-12-20 11:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all up to you... talk to him about it... ( not how u think u deformed and all that but bout how u wanna cuz his friends pressures) and if he really cares for you he would wait and if not he not worth ur time
and u aren't deformed... god wasn't deformed and we're all made in his likeness... so no one's deformed... plus lots of girls got a big inner labia.. plus if he's never seen any 1 naked b4 he will prob think its normal...
o and dont give in to peer pressure people who do is a major turn off! and people who r 14 should be havin sex if the condom breaks you could get pregnant and no1 wants that stress....
w/e you do it'll be the right choice!
and use a condom every time.... plz plz plz
good luck!
<3
2007-12-20 11:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly doubt you have big inner labia but whatever.
You're only 14 and definitely NOT a bad girlfriend if you don't have sex with him. If his friends are egging him on to pressure you to do it, then tell him to piss off and find someone who can respect you as a person and not as a piece of as*.
2007-12-20 11:53:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋