My son wants to go on Ski trip with the church youth group the day after christmas,keep in mind we live at the bottom of Georgia and this trip is to West Virginia for a week,I have never let my son go anywhere without me out of town,Im scared to let him go and cant quit thinking about what could happen like car wreck,getting hurt without me there oh I could go on and on....He is 15 now as of 2 weeks ago!He says Im being paranoid am I?
2007-12-20 11:44:07 · 18 answers · asked by Kelly M 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I just feel like having him was a gift itself and I should protect him from potential danger if its in my will!
2007-12-20 11:46:04 · update #1
LovemyBabies you are so sweet thank you! Thanks to all of you!
2007-12-20 11:56:56 · update #2
Moms will always see our kids like babies.. But they grow up and they need their space too. If he is a good boy with good grades and behaves good.. Give him a chance to explore and become a little independent because you will not be with him forever... He will go to college maybe aways get married have kids and the story will be the same.. So have confidence in him and let him have fun besides he is going with the church group and i think it will be safe.. Tell him to call you as soon as he gets there , at nigth when he is going to sleep, before he comes back home or unless is an emergency.. Don't be scared our kids are like birds one day they will fly away so give him a chance to have fun and you calm down he will be ok and you too ... Best Wishes :)
MERRY X MAS !!! :)
2007-12-20 11:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of being a good parent is allowing your child to grow up. Check into all the arrangements for the ski trip, find out how many chaperones there will be and if all seems reasonable, let him go. I can't think of a better occasion than a church group sponsered trip.
Make a plan that he will call you each evening, and trust all will be well.
You aren't being paranoid, you are a normal Mom.
2007-12-20 11:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Butterfly Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his mom. You know if he is indeed mature enough to handle this situation or not. I know how much you love him but in reality bad things can happen even if you are there with him. If you have done your job as a parent then you have taught him to make good decisions in the event that you are not there to guide him.
If you feel that he is ready to make the right decisions and you trust the people who are going to be looking after him then maybe it is time to let him have a little bit of independence. After all, it is better to have him test the waters in a sheltered enviroment than it is to have him jump in the deep end out of frustration.
He is a gift. The most precious gift that God can give. But your gift to him is to guide him to be the best man that he can be. I always say that I am not raising a child but rather I am forming somebodys husband and father. My baby is now 24 years old and he has made me proud to be his mother every step of the way. It wasn't easy to let him go off to college or to move out into his own apartment but if you you are supportive of thoses moves and you make them as smooth as you can then he will always come back to you even if it is to do his laundry.
Bottom line... Is he mature enough mentally and emotionally to go on this trip? Are there going to be adiquate staff to supervise the amount of kids that are going? If the answers are yes then let him go. If you feel like he is not ready then maybe next year he will be. Some day you are going to have to let go and it is easier for everyone if you do it a little at a time.
I am praying for you and for his safety. I know you will make the right decision.
2007-12-20 13:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being paranoid. My son is almost 9 years old, and his school is literally right across the street from where we live. Although other neigborhood kids walk to and from school everyday, I wouldn't let my son do it. But I have to teach him some kind of responsibility, so I started letting him walk to school and home. And he has with no problems. I understand but as an answerer said you have to teach them some kind of responsibility. And church is the best, Im sure he will have a good time.
2007-12-20 11:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by lwomar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you ARE being a little paranoid. I don't want to be mean, and I understand where you're coming from - but you can't stay with him the rest of his life and make sure every second he can't get hurt. He won't be able to really LIVE if you're constantly supervising him. You have to let go sometime and let him live his life so he can get the most out of it! I say you should let him go, especially if it's with a youth group.
2007-12-20 12:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him go. I think about all that stuff myself too but he's going with the church so I'm sure there will be responsible people to take care of him. I know that you are scared but you need that first time to realize that it will be OK. We'll go and come back fine. Then the next time it should be easier for you to let him go. It's hard - they grow up so fast : ) Good Luck
2007-12-20 11:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Heather M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to let them do things. Its normal to want to protect your kids but are u going to be this way when he meets a girl or wants to get married one day? I say let him go he's going with people from the church or go with him. I would not say u r being paranoid but just a mother. Good Luck
2007-12-20 11:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by ღStarzzღ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well think of it this way...he could regret not being allowed to go later on. Who knows this trip could help him to grow up and maybe figure out things. I realize he's only 15, but still he's still a kid #1, he has to grow up #2, and lastly, he'll be surrounded by responsible people. If you hold restraints on children they will rebel later on. Just remember that and good luck.
2007-12-20 11:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by seerakingu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hm... I think it really depends on how mature your son is. Does he get in trouble a lot? Does he most of the time obey his parents? Is he respectful and follow the rules? Does he have good grades? If he's an all around good kid, I'd say go for it. I'm sure it;s going to be a very supervised and everything.
2007-12-20 11:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My parents let me go to church camp for a week when I was 14. We lived in Florida and the camp was in Tenessee. I had a blast.
Let your son go. I am sure he will be fine.
2007-12-20 12:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by Willow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋