im 13 and i do want a bf but i dont think im ready but here is the story...
i know this sounds weird for my age but i asked boy out online well he asked me after i told him i liked him but anyway i new what he looked like he had a myspace and we IMed each oth every day and called each other.i thought i really liked and i thought i wanted him to be my bf cuz i thought of him alot and i just wanted a bf. i told him i kinda liked him and then he asked me out he wanted me to put on my myspace "im in a realationship" so i did. then he took it toooooo serious he said he loved me the first time he asked me out i did not think that waz right.
the next day i broke up with him and i dont talk to him no more am i ready for a bf?
and do u think that waz right when he said i love you the minute he asked me out?
2007-12-20 11:39:04 · 31 answers · asked by prettylilpunk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're still young and have PLENTY of time to think about boys. You're not even in highschool yet so you don't need to worry about dating. I guess you can have a relationship though if you want. It's good you realize that it was too early to say "I Love You" It wasn't right to say it that early, and there is a difference between love and lust.
If you do get a boyfriend just don't do anything sexual because you are to young for that lol.
Don't take things TOO seriously, but don't intentionally mess around with others hearts too, because we all have feelings. so..
Good Luck =)
2007-12-20 11:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think when you are 13 there is nothing wrong with having a very innocent relationship with a boy. But in your case, I think that the guy didn't love you. I know that it is easy to get those butterflies in your stomach everytime you think about him, but that does not equal love. If I were you though, I would wait until I were a little older so you can know more about boys. And as much as you hate to hear it, most of the time adults are right when it comes to relationships.
2007-12-20 11:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol im 14 just turned anyways uhm ya sure u are go for it :D
and btw becareful on myspace cuz they have wierd people there and if he said i love you out and got mushy id tell him to hold off because thats still a little bit to soon...if you want a bf then go for it! Just make sure you actually know the guy in real life as in a school friend or something like that...
2007-12-20 11:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by britneai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of the invisible world of the Internet with your invisible boyfriends and go have the life of a 13 year old. You will end up getting killed by some 60 year old child molester on the Internet. Talk to your parents, not us. Sounds like you need guidance.
2007-12-20 11:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by midnitrondavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 13 and talking to someone online, never a good thing at your age. people are crazy..and they could be "13" or they could be 40 and trying to get your street address and reg. information to find you. Obviously not good.
stop talking to him and he will hopefully go away, if not-talk to your parents. If your parents get involved and he still won't leave you alone-get a hold of the police.
No I dont think it was right he said he loved you, obviously he doesn't know what 'love' means, you can't fall in love with a person 5 min. after you start dating them. It takes time, understanding, compassion, trust and so on to make 'love'.
2007-12-20 11:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Way and sure not on the Internet. That is what sexual predators do, hit on 13 yr old girls. Go to school dances as a group and wait a few years for a steady bf.
2007-12-20 11:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by Teddy's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you were fully in the right breaking up with him.
its dangerous water to tread, being in an online relationship.
the un-writen rules for online dating:
1. you should talk to each other for at least 6 months, just having normal friendly conversation before deciding to take a relationship anywhere.
if he pushes you, he wants something else besides a relationship, and either way, you are not going to like it. (it might not be right away, but it all comes out in the end.)
2. be very, very carefull. google search his name. what comes up? if there are any "BEWARE" pages, think twice.
3. anything like "i want you to change your myspace page" or any other "i want you to..."s should always make a red flag come up. if he cannot be happy with who you are, and the way you carry yourself, then he is and will be bad news. even if you dont know it yet.
4. before you even THINK about meeting him, try talking to a family member of his. or at least find one of his friends. if they brush you off, or try to make the conversation as brief as it needs to be, TREAT IT LIKE A BAD REVEIW!!
5. the first 3 times you meet with him, ALWAYS, ALWAYS take a friend. regardless of how much you know about him, you still dont know what kind of a person he is. if he's the kind of guy that rushes into things, he might be the kind that wants to rape you, and doesnt really want to wait until you're ready to have sex. he will take what he thinks is his, and then he will leave. BE AWARE.
and, this isnt really a rule, but your first relationship should not be with a guy you met online.
no one seems to understand this. if you date a person you met online, you might get the creepy type.
if you meet a person in a bar, they will probably enjoy drinking (possibly too much)
if you meet a person in a church, they will probably want to go to church every sunday, and want to take you with them. (not that fun.)
think about where you choose to meet the people you date.
if you like cars, go to a car show, or a drag race, or a race track. you will meet someone else who likes cars.
if you like music, go to a concert. you will meet someone who probably even likes the same kind of music you like.
if you like to exersize, go to a walk for charity, (there are tons when its warmer outside.)
the list goes on and on. just be creative. myspace is great and all, but it only goes so far.
the other thing is, you can twist your profile around, and photoshop your own pics, and lie and stuff, and nobody knows. you might be dating some serial killer, and you'd never know. seriously!!
nobody just says "i love you" like that guy did almost out of nowhere. he wanted to take things too fast, and he wanted something you probably werent ready to give him. he might have taken it anyway whatever it was, against your will. you'll never know. god, i hate horn dogs.
consider yourself lucky!!
2007-12-20 12:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by ASLotaku 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear child, just read and take the advice of the people who said this to you :
1.) you're to young
2.) He don't know what love is
3.) At age 13 to much is happening in your head right now
4.) He should have not said he loved you.
5.) study for your next test
You don't need my advice, just do what the others tell you to do, is advice enough.
God Bless You and stay safe
2007-12-20 11:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think its really right bc for one u 2 dont really know eatch other and i think it would be better if u had a bf that is close that u can see everyday and just chill..but dont do that whole online dating thing bc its not really a good thing cuz u dont really know if they are who they say they are just keep it cool and stay with the people that around and u will know when u are ready for a bf just wait!
2007-12-20 11:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by souljagurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 13..feelings are all over the place. Infatuation/crushing/obsessing is confused with love and the word flies around a million miles an hour.
I don't think you're ready.
But you'll probably get one anyways.
2007-12-20 11:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by AD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋