me and my girlfriend have been together for 2.5 years. unfortunately, i will be going to washington for college and she will stay here in california for college next year. she says that she wants to make this work and i really want to make this work too. we both love each other very much. well, my question is, i dunno, what should i do to make it work?will it work?
2007-12-20 11:27:36 · 21 answers · asked by Json 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
srry, i meant washington state
2007-12-20 17:56:35 · update #1
It can be done. Make a plan for communicating. Such as calling each other once a day, email or text a few times. Try to avoid overkill so that you're not talking too many times a day. You'll run out of stuff to talk about and one of you will no doubt feel smothered. Decide if you are going to see other people or remain monogamous and stick to it. Try to plan now for when you will see each other in the next several months. Can you afford for either of you to visit the other at school? When will you both be home on break?
But you are young and you are about to experience an entirely new world, meet tons of new people, and grow quite a bit intellectually and emotionally. You may find that what was perfect in high school isn't right for you anymore. Be honest with yourselves too and don't turn away from any opportunities because of this relationship. If it is meant to be it will, but don't beat yourself up if it doesn't last.
On a positive note. My sister stayed with her high school boyfriend through college. They were far apart, had ups and downs, dated other people, etc. Now they have been married 11 years and have 3 kids! Good luck and remember to ENJOY college, it's the best time.
2007-12-20 11:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by Q-mama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
here's the rub: probably not. You might make it work for a few months, or even a year, or a few years. But it will be very difficult to go to college and have a huge part of your life be elsewhere. It will keep you from meeting people and enjoying the experience the way you should.
My advice? Break up, agree to keep each other in mind for the future. Who knows? You may find each other again romantically in 4 years..
2007-12-20 11:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by alleywag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Washington like Washington DC will be really hard on you guys and I feel for you. Washington like the state, hopefully you will be able to make the drive and spend breaks and holidays together. Hang in there. If you can make it through these rough 4 years, you will have a recipe for a dedicated spouse and companion.
2007-12-20 11:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by MadeYouReadThis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could work. How long are you going to be apart?
Keep in close contact and visit each other as often as possible. Maybe get some webcams. Talk a lot, and be involved with each other as much as you can. The distance will make things harder, so try to make things easier by staying faithful and involved.
2007-12-20 11:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Yo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should evaluate the relationship and decide if
A) If you could handle a long-distance relationship based on your past with them.
B) How much do you love her, would you consider marrying her after college?
C) Can you make it work. I'm a firm believer that you can do anything so do you honestly think that it will work.
(From the way you talk, I think you can.)
2007-12-20 11:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Kaylyn! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work. I can't tell you what you can do but if you are both truly in love, it CAN work. It will be hard though. Just make sure to make plans to be together on all breaks, etc. just for a chance to see each other...oh...and get unlimited calls and texts on your cells. ;) Good luck!
2007-12-20 11:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by MamaBear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like to me your in a whole well i say take a break or just dump her!!! what ur gonna do 1,0000 miles away i mean sure u love her and she loves you so just be friends that way when u find some one else u wont have to break her heart so just dump her and roll with the washington chicks
2007-12-20 11:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really get it but ask if she wants to live in a house with you while your at collage or get her to go to collage or try to make things work like she stays there and you go to collae and then call each other every noght and yeah vist each other all the time well try to when ever theres a brake but doo what you can
2007-12-20 11:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will not work. Do yourself a favor and break it off now. Long distance relationships are doomed. One or both of you will find somebody else eventually.
2007-12-20 11:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sounds like a tough thing to do.. but since you REALLY do love eachother, if it's really love, it will last. Give it a shot, but I mean, I'm only 14. Haha :) Good Luck!
2007-12-20 11:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋